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    Default Can't stand how messy DH is! Help!

    As the title suggests, my DH is so messy and it is actually starting to depress me!
    We have talked about it so many times! I have asked him continuously to pick his clothes off the floor etc. I've told him I don't expect him to clean but I do expect him to not create more mess...
    We are ttc but when it comes to us actually having a baby I've said I won't be able to cope with the mess, that he will need to take more responsibility and that I won't allow our child to grow up thinking it is ok to be like this. Has anyone got any advice please?

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    Also whenever I broach the subject he just gets annoyed with me and usually says something like 'ugh, this again'
    Grrrrrrr!!!

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    Default Can't stand how messy DH is! Help!

    Nope. My DH is exactly the same. Nagging, begging, asking nicely, explaining how I feel, etc, writing down how much time I spend cleaning, none of that worked. Even marriage counselling didn't make him tidier.

    In the end we agreed I do all the housework (including picking up after him) and he does the bedtime routine with DS and all night wakes. We're both happy this way

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    Default Can't stand how messy DH is! Help!

    my XH was exactly the same. I have no advice though because I couldn't handle it and ended up leaving him (there were other reasons too).

    I hope someone has some good advice for you, but I feel your pain.

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    Mine too :/

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    Default Can't stand how messy DH is! Help!

    My DH is the same. Usually just leaves things all over the floor and never puts things away. Leaves kitchen a mess, bedroom a mess and also when he is home with DS just leaves any mess that DS makes. On occasion he will just clean the whole house just to surprise me (only happens about once a month though)

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    just dont do anything for him. when he has no clothes left, well they werent in the basket.
    or if he wants dinner he can tidy up his mess before he gets fed.

    im not a maid.

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    Default Re: Can't stand how messy DH is! Help!

    My wife is exactly the same. She won't clean up after herself or do any cleaning at all. Usually when we talk about it, it just ends IP in a massive argument and we get no where.
    I even tried telling her "ok u can do the dishes this week" and the dishes say in the sink for 2 weeks before I couldn't take it anymore and did them.
    I have tried everything even begging.
    If anyone has some good suggestions IM all ears

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    My DP is pretty clean. He can be a fuddy duddy at times but some messes he make srive me nuts and he leaves me to do everything like I am his mum. However in his eyes he feels that because he works and I am presently a SAHM he shouldnt have to do a thing. Which upsets me and gets hard at times. However if he was asked about it he would deny that attitude.

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    Quote Originally Posted by trishalishous View Post
    just dont do anything for him. when he has no clothes left, well they werent in the basket.
    or if he wants dinner he can tidy up his mess before he gets fed.

    im not a maid.
    This.


 

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