Needing A Vent!

[Shan1781]

I don't know if this is the place to put this but I will - Move it if need be mods.

As you all may know Hubby and I have been not really trying but not really preventing for 2 years now until the last 6 months we have been doing everything we can to get pregnant. Today we found out that his sister is pregnant, she only got married a month ago and her husband was a virgin - I am so, so, so upset and can't help thinking what have I ever done wrong in my life to not be able to get pregnant? I am happy for her and her hubby but at the same time I feel really upset...

Shan xoxox

[jennibear]

Oh hun, i understand. It must be so hard to hear other ppl getting prg when your trying.
Remember though, its only been 6 months, thats not that long. hang in there and im sure it will happen for you!

[Shan1781]

Thanks Jenni, it is very hard to hear... especially given the circumstances! We will be ok... just very difficult.

Shan...xoxox

[Lil Smurfy]

I completely understand. Hubby and I were going to start trying in April once we were married. My brother and sister in law had 4 kids so I assumed they'd finished ( she'd been told by drs not to have any more). Shortly before we got married, they announced they were pregnant again. Hearing everyone talking about the impending birth of their babies, just rubs salt in my wounds cos I'm not pregnant.

[Shan1781]

Thats exactly how I feel Lil, like salt has been rubbed into my wounds!

My husbands heart sank and all he could think about was me and how I was feeling right at that moment!

The other thing that burns my toast... a girl came into work the other day she wouldn't have been more then 14 with her nearly 1 year old baby (I know the baby was hers as she was asking me questions about decorations for her daughters cake) anyway I had to walk away becuase all I could think was my tax is paying for that 14 year old to have a child...

Oh dear, I need to go and have the 500g block of chocolate I bought myself!!!

Shan...xoxox

[Lil Smurfy]

Take care and enjoy your chocolate. Hopefully it will be your turn soon

[Allymumtobe]

It sucks doesn't it? My husband and I tried for 18 months with no answers then were told that he was infertile but in that time we have seen 2 nieces 1 nephew and countless friends have "accidental" babies and it always hurts and sucks I'm so sorry love

[Naomee262]

Sorry to hear you are having troubles I know that nothing anyone will say to you will make you feel better because I was in the same boat. My husband and I tried for two and a half years to fall however it wasn't happening. After countless bouts of Clomid and pending Ivf i was petrified that it was never going to happen for us but I'm happy to say that after all we went through and all the previous dissapointments we are the proud parents of 13 week old twins I am a Police Officer so I see first hand everyday undeserving lowlife scum who get blessed with gorgeous babies and don't realize how lucky they have it. For ages I was so angry and resentful as I couldn't understand what I had done so wrong to not also be blessed. I couldn't even walk down the street as if I saw a mother and baby I would burst out in tears but stay strong. The harder you work the more you appreciate them when they arrive.

[Shan1781]

Thanks for all the kind words ladies, still feeling down and haven't stopped crying since we found out. I know that our journey will make us stronger and it will happen when the time is right for us... however knowing this still doesn't stop the feelings we are having at the moment.

Shan...xoxox

[Eko]

Couldn't pass through without leaving you a . Or two.