I have a autistic daughter if I got invited to a wedding but was told to leave her at home. That's fine it's their day BUT I'd never see them again! And I'd make it very clear why!
I just cannot imagine why the groom allowed it? I mean, who would want to marry someone who would exclude his family?
If DS was to be marrying someone who refused to have his cousin at his wedding...i would be supporting him in standing up for himself, and his family.
It's not just the bride and groom I would be furious at...but also his parents.
Fair enough if it was a child free wedding, or all the cousins weren't invited.
I think the bride is being a massive bridezilla and if that was my child I would not attend.
Family is family and I could never imagine doing that so someone who I was close to.
I can understand the 'no kids' which by a stretch could also include older children/younger adults who require additional care, however I would never do it myself.
We did opt for now children at our wedding except my nephew - this meant that cousins children ranging in ages 4-17 were excluded.
However, I have one 2nd cousins who has a son with special needs - he is about 30 and sounds quite similar to the person mentioned in the OP. He is never aggressive but can be very loud at times when he gets overwhelmed. This 2nd cousin also had a daughter who has her own children and is not in a relationship. Basically the 3 generations don't have much support or anyone else available to look after the disabled son or the grandkids. So all of them where invited to the wedding.
TBH the disabled son was a bit of hard work - it was alot of ppl and a bit overwhleming for him and he didn't cope that well. But we are all family and we all love him and it wouldn't have been a family wedding without him IYKWIM. Everyone was very accomdating and took turns to help look after him and the venue cleared out a little area in another room for him to chill out in.
I think it's unfair. I also don't get the "no kids at weddings" anyway. I was happy to have my friends' children at the wedding!
I also hate the "it's the brides day " thing. When I got married it was so much about both of us but not only us, both our families. It is a big day for everyone that loves and cares about the bride and groom. I know it's impossible to keep everyone happy at a wedding but to including a family member because of a disability is inexcusable!
If I was a family member of this man who is being excluded, I would not be attending the wedding. AND I would be telling both the bride and groom exactly how I felt about it. How gutless is this groom?
If she is afraid of him then there are a million ways to deal with it other than to nastily exclude him. How many brides spend a lot of time with any of their guests anyway? Most weddings I've been to I've had a brief chat or two with the bride and that's about it.
Sounds much more like she cares about what her friends will think or something.
That bride is setting herself up to fail.
If already, appearances are more important than love and family...she is in for a shock.
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