The content of the thread was clearly stated in the title. If you don't like it there are plenty of self-proclaimed fluff threads.
I still don't understand the stance that having children isn't a choice.
Yes, it's a choice which is more common, one which you might consider to be more "natural" etc. However... if you're in a position to change your behaviours to affect the outcome, it's still a choice.
Let's say I'm exposed to a deadly disease. There's a treatment which I have access to and if I don't use it I'll die. Now... if I say no I won't be treated (and die) is that not a choice? Simply because it's the "natural" option?
Obviously different choices have different motivations behind them. A desire to have sex, or to reproduce, is a pretty strong motivation. It may be the norm, but that doesn't stop it - in our society - from being a conscious choice.
again, I'm not trying to equate the situations (deadly disease with pregnancy for example), just using the same logical reasoning.
I think having a child is a lifestyle choice. I also think that it is a choice that should be respected and supported by workplaces and within society as a whole, just as i think family on the whole should be respected and supported. People need to stop all this "poor me, it's not fair" rubbish, it drives me crazy! Parents don't negotiate flexible hours so they can go to the beach, they're doing it to care for their family.
Oh and I can just picture them now, standing outside the building on their 4th 10 minute smoke break complaining about the mums who get time off. Lol!
Traditionally, having children has been the norm, to keep the population going and to provide family support, more means of income etc.
I would say, in the west, the lifestyle choice is to NOT have children, rather than the other way around.
Stiflers Mom (19-08-2012)
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