If I eat whatever appeals to me, or I spend all day sleeping because it's "natural"... does that make it any less of a choice?
I'm not trying to equate sex with those choices... merely saying that just because something seems inbuilt, doesn't mean we're powerless to stop it. If we choose to act or not to act - regardless of how strong the impulses behind each decision may be - it's still just as much a choice.
Here's another example, although from a different person.
I used to work in an environment that prided itself on being "family friendly". To that end, a colleague was allowed one unpaid afternoon off each week to assist with her children's sporting commitments. Another (childless) colleague once commented that she thought it was unfair that she couldn't also receive an afternoon off to pursue her hobbies (read "lifestyle choices").
The implication here was that the first woman's children and their sporting commitments were her hobby. I would strongly argue that they are not. I'm sure she had her own hobbies too, hobbies that she also was not allowed to take an afternoon off to pursue. Our workplace saw the value in allowing her time to raise her family, and didn't see the same value in needlecraft.
Last edited by lambjam; 19-08-2012 at 10:06.
Negotiate a better arrangement for yourself and stop comparing your work contract with someone elses. People make different workplace agreements for many things - not just children.
ETA: It's like people who say 'teacher's get too many holidays' - no they don't, they get the holidays they are entitled to as negotiated by unions and the government. Figure out what you want from your life and make it happen - don't whinge about what other people have. This attitude of 'it's not fair' is annoying.
Last edited by babyla; 19-08-2012 at 10:09.
Pregnant for the first-time?
Not sure where to start? We can help!
Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!