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    Default Are children a "lifestyle choice"?

    I have a friend who insists on using the term "lifestyle choice" when referring to anyone's decision to have a baby. Every time she says it it makes me want to jump up and down and rant a little, but so far I've resisted.

    My view is that while having a child is technically a choice, to call it a "lifestyle choice" reduces it to the same level as material items, recreational activities, and at best career choices. And I don't believe the propagation of the species should be reduced to this. Further, is it a choice if all of us, my friend included, are relying on people to have babies? Old age ain't going to be so pretty if there's no-one around to change her bed pan.

    What are your thoughts?

    ETA To clarify, the term usually comes up in the context of her career or taxation/government benefit issues. She is offended that her lifestyle choices aren't viewed by her employer, government or society in the same way as those of a pregnant woman. For example she doesn't get special leave or consideration to pursue her lifestyle choices.
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    Default Are children a "lifestyle choice"?

    It's a choice, yes but not a lifestyle choice. A lifestyle choice is like living in the country or being a smoker or something.

    I'd be annoyed too!

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    Default Are children a "lifestyle choice"?

    Yes I do.

    The decision to raise children is to decide to alter the way your lifestyle works for a really long time. In the biggest way

    And in our society women who choose not to have children are seen as making a strange lifestyle choice....so how is the opposite not also a lifestyle choice?

    It's a choice you make, even when it doesn't feel like there's a choice involved.

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    Wow what a silly thing to get annoyed over. IMO yes it is a lifestyle choice as it completely changes the way you live when you have them.

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    It definitely feels like a lifestyle choice to me. It affects every part of my lifestyle and my lifestyle has changed dramatically since having a child. It also affects the lifestyle choices I now make including financial, environmental, work balance etc..
    Yep it is a lifestyle choice in my book.

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    Default Are children a "lifestyle choice"?

    I think it's a lifestyle choice. You choose kids because you want a certain type of life. And having kids changes your life.

    As pp said a woman choosing to not have kids so she can continue to work/go out/travel with ease is making a lifestyle choice. So the reverse would have to be true?

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    No way,

    They're a means to support us and care for us in our old age. It's a social requirement that we continue to breed, to sustain the country economically...

    I am that awful person who hears people don't want kids and can't believe her ears (but I don't make a big deal about it), probably because it was the one life goal I was sure of once leaving school. I do however respect those who don't want to have kids, but I do think they're choosing to miss out on something absolutely amazing.

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    Default Are children a "lifestyle choice"?

    I believe it's absolutely a lifestyle choice. Children change they way you live and the don't always come to you biologically.

    I think that the decision to have a child or welcome one into your family is about deciding if you are ready for a huge change in lifestyle...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Renesme View Post
    Wow what a silly thing to get annoyed over. IMO yes it is a lifestyle choice as it completely changes the way you live when you have them.
    So my friend's employer should give her the same consideration, leave entitlements etc to pursue her lifestyle choices as a pregnant woman?

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    Default Are children a "lifestyle choice"?

    I think it is a lifestyle choice.. I don't think it's offensive for someone to say that either.

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