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    Default Advice on the friend dating thing

    Ok long story short I have some good friends but most don't have kids. I'd really like to make some new friends with kids about ds ages. but I'm kind of struggling with it. I feel like I'm dating again! I'm at work in the week so I don't met too many other mums and it's mostly dads at swimming on Saturday.

    So I need some advice on meeting other mums, how not to come over too desperate. Not looking for a BFF just some one to have a cup of tea and a chat with.

    What's yr advice?

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    Look for a mum's group in your area, or even see if some of the people on BH are similar to yourself and would like to catch up.
    I already know of a few lovely ladies in my area, and it didn't take long to find them. I'm sure you'd be able to find some that are willing to meet up for a coffee .

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    Do your kids go to daycare? do you ever see the other parents on the drop off?

    I have recently arranged playdates with a couple of the mothers of kids my son had been playing with. It has worked out well as the kids already know each other and enjoy each other's company, and both mothers have been lovely as well, and in neighbouring suburbs so convenient.

    the other thing I was thinking of was putting a note in a neighbour's letter box who has children but work during the week as well.

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    Default Advice on the friend dating thing

    What about playgroup or Gymboree or something?

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    Yeah ds1 is at daycare 2 days a week but I don't really see anyone picking up or dropping off. DH is sahd so I don't do the trip regularly.

    Feeling a bit bummed because I ran in to ds1 friend's mum today, I've tried to set up play dates before but got brush off, she seemed desperate to get away when I spoke to her

    Probably paranoid though, everyone's busy right?

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    I wouldn't worry about it too much, I'm the same *chuckle*. When I come to pick DS up I just want to get in and get out because I'm so tired and want to sit down and cuddle with him for a while.
    Consider hobby groups too, I've heard of hobby groups like scrap booking groups or baking groups where kids are welcome and it means even if you don't make any good friends in that particular group, you'll have a skill to bring to another group. Very handy
    I've traded a few beanies that I've crocheted for baked goods from another mum. Definitely a good trade for me .

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    Do you live in Sydney? I'll have coffe with you. We're close to the same age. My DH is Irish and I assume you are English so we have some kinda connection (apart from being mums). Alot of my friends don't have kids either and I'm on the hunt for new friends as well

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    Quote Originally Posted by Naboo View Post
    Do you live in Sydney? I'll have coffe with you. We're close to the same age. My DH is Irish and I assume you are English so we have some kinda connection (apart from being mums). Alot of my friends don't have kids either and I'm on the hunt for new friends as well
    Sorry would love to meet you but I'm in BrisVegas. Long trip for a coffee!


 

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