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    So my DS has a little friend at school who is not a very nice child. At school They have already separated the two chidren into different classes so that they are not around each other. My problem is that the Parents of this child keep asking us to go on play dates and around for dinner ALL the time. We dont really click as people either (might have something to do with different parenting styles) but I have made nearly every excuse under the sun to make sure we dont have to associate with them, but they still keep asking! They are the most persitant people I have ever met. This may also be very judgemental but I find the Dad very creepy and dont really want him around my son. How to I make them leave us alone, the amount of times I have blown them off most people would have given up by now!

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    Default Awkward social situation advice needed

    Why is the child not very nice? Is is just because the child is different? Or are there fundamental 'flaws'?

    I wouldn't know what to do apart from continuing to ignore them.

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    He does naughty things at school and then tells the teacher it was my son, is generally a naughty child. He is also very annoying like in your face in a personal space invading way. Im not saying that my son is a saint but I would prefer him to be around his other friends rather than this child.

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    Default Awkward social situation advice needed

    Could you say something like the school thinks our kids are bad influences on each other and have recommended discouraging a friendship? That way you are not the bad guys

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    Could you say something like the school thinks our kids are bad influences on each other and have recommended discouraging a friendship? That way you are not the bad guys
    I wouldn't do that, because the mother may approach the school and ask why. I know if someone said the above to me I'd turn it the school for answers, and wonder why exactly the school said it to you and not me, IYKWIM?

    Sadly, OP, I think you may have to be up front about it. Tell them you are just not interested.

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    I would either straight out tell them you aren't interested in socialising ever or just keep doing as you are and hope they one day get it.

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    Maybe they are hoping to help the Kfs iron out their differences?
    That aside, if you don't want to socialise with them but don't want to be upfront then you will just need to keep fobbing them off.

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    Just keep telling them you're washing your hair that day.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bell & Bug View Post
    I wouldn't do that, because the mother may approach the school and ask why. I know if someone said the above to me I'd turn it the school for answers, and wonder why exactly the school said it to you and not me, IYKWIM?

    Sadly, OP, I think you may have to be up front about it. Tell them you are just not interested.
    I didn't think of that. Although the school have already separated them into different classes.

    I do think being upfront is probably the best way in the long run

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    Perhaps say " I feel really awkward saying this, but my son seems to be intimidated by yours. I am sure it's just a stage..."

    Then say an awkward goodbye and run away LOL.


 

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