I am always on edge and always scared about it. I basically don't trust anyone, but I have to leave them with babysitters because we don't have any family in our area at all. It stresses me out, I talk about their penis being private and if anyone ever makes them feel unfomfortable to tell me about it.
But I know it ins't enough, I have no idea what else I am supposed to do bar homeshchooling them and not letting me out of my sight.
It doesn't help that I get comments about how "pretty" my boys are or how "beautiful" looking they are. That makes me even more worried.
Could I please suggest maybe letting the kids know that it's not ok for their OWN siblings to touch them either?
I know it's not something anyone wants to think about, but it happens.
Nothing yet, he's 16 months. But I'll do much the same as most others...get him to wash his own parts asap, tell him that no one else should touch them and visa-versa, teach him what to say and do if it does happen and BELIEVE him if he comes to me.
I was also molested at a young age by a family member....it's far too common for my liking. The above would have helped me a lot - I didn't know how to say no or how to tell my parents. The on-going effects it had on my life are unbelievable.
ETA when people think that an 8 year old girl "made it up" it's the worst feeling ever
Last edited by captainscaptain; 17-08-2012 at 20:02.
^^ Yes sibling abuse does occur and it is not that uncommon The stats are higher between step-siblings, then half siblings and then bio, but all of the above definitely occur.
I trust no one. The only time kids are away from me is at kindy and school while i work. And the extremely odd occassion the aunt might babysit.
But no one else. Family have let me down trust wise with important things before so they dont get my respect or trust to be alone with my children.
As others said sleep overs are an absolute NO! Maybe when they are teenagers and have a phone. Maybe.
No one can protect my kids like i can and i would do everything in my power to keep them safe in this world.
It's all well and good to tell your kids no sleepovers. But how do you explain it to them when they get an invitation to a slumber party and they are so damn excited, and all their friends are going. Does anyone have any suggestions?
My son is almost 3 but has just been diagnosed with autism and is very developmentally delayed. Worries me as a survivor of se.xual abuse that he is non verbal. He is only away from me when he's at daycare though and has never had a sleep over.
It's a hard one for me because sleepovers are some of my best memories and happened most weekends through mid-late primary and highschool, but I totally understand the reasoning behind the 'no sleepover' rule.
My DS is nearly 3 and we haven't done anything that you have all suggested, but I'll definitely start tomorrow! I feel like he wouldn't get it AT ALL. I should order that book to get the ball rolling.
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