Thanks for the bath suggestion Sel and Peez, I think I will try that tonight after I've gone for a walk. And Peez, I'm thinking of showing or reading DH your post at some stage to remind him that having a family has very little to do with genes. I honestly think that he would rather do donor than not have kids, but like he said, he would just prefer to not think about it at all for the time being.
If the tables were turned and we were told we had to use donor eggs, I would not hesitate for a second. So I don't really understand how he's feeling, but I guess I have the maternal urges that are unique to women; the undeniable instinct to bear and raise children, and guys are just not predisposed to naturally feeling that way.
MrsJ - that's fantastic the degree that your betas have increased in just a few days! Yay! Hope you can relax and enjoy your early pregnancy now.