Kandp: My clinic doesn't tell me grades, they will tell me if their satisfactory and what cell numbers they are as well as fragmentation (but when you have been doing this long enough you start to work out the better ones)
In the end if any are able to be frozen, we are told they have reached whatever stage, day3, blastocyst etc and that's it.
My clinic feels if they tell us grades etc we will fret more than we need to, as every embryo that is transferred has the same chance as another whether it's graded high or low, unless you have had them chromosome tested- then its higher odds.
I prefer it like this as I know I would think it was doomed from the start if it was graded low. I think we have enough to drive us insane during ivf.
My thoughts are if they make it to freeze stage, they deserve a chance.
Sounds like the massage was the best thing for you!