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    Default spinoff*from the daycare thread

    All I can say is WOW! I missed alot of that thread but god I am fuming over some of those inappropriate comments and don't know where some people get off! hmmm in a roundabout way I am a part-time mother because my children aren't home with me 24/7. If I didn't want to stay home with my kids, why did I have them? Really.... pft.

    Well... I went back to work after 4mths after having ds1 due to financial reasons after my husband had an accident. This wasn't planned! Being a first time mum I felt as guilty as hell but then realised that daycare was great for my ds so when dh was able to return to work I was already in a great routine and decided to continue working fulltime. It worked for us and ds certainly wasn't affected by it!

    So after ds2 I had 12mths off parental leave and long service leave. Whilst I enjoyed that 12mths at home with him I was very ready to go back to work and I did. Because I love my job and I wanted to work not because I had to but some parents do and it is part of life. I didn't have to for financial reasons so my wage will benefit the future of our children which is a bonus.

    Our boys are very happy adjusted kids, daycare has not harmed them in any way. In fact they appreciate us just that bit more because they aren't with us 24/7. Seeing their little happy excited faces when we pick them up is priceless. And working has certainly made me a better mother! I don't feel bad because I am not sitting at home with them all day every day.

    It's not necessarily about quantity of time!
    Quality time is more beneficial

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    You shouldn't have to defend your choices. We are all mothers, all in different situations. We do what is best for our family. Sounds like your kids have a great life

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    Default spinoff*from the daycare thread

    I didn't get involved in the other thread. I do not judge people who work with kids, my parents did it an I hold nothing against them... I do not work. But my kids go to daycare once a week so I can do everything I need to without worrying bout them and for socialisation. Everyone parents dif and I feel we should all support each other no matter what!!! An I'm starting uni this month! That means ima few yrs I'll hopefully be going to work again, I'm scared to but I kinda want to at the same time.

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    You don't need to defend yourself!

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    You don't need to justify yourself to anyone, let alone an anonymous forum. You do what works for you and your family.

    Our family works very differently to others. I'm sure there would be many people with many negative things to say. But you know what, we're happy, our kids are happy and this works for us right now. You don't have to justify yourself.

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    I didn't see the thread, what happened?

    You certainly don't have to defend your choices and shouldn't let ignorant comments affect you! There are so many variables to this parenting gig, what works for one doesn't work for another.

    So sick of the mummy wars. Solidarity would serve us much better than competition.

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    My kids don't even live with me and they are all happy and loved etc. Who cares what other people think. It's your life.

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    Default spinoff*from the daycare thread

    I have never felt guilty or judged for having my kids in Daycare. I wouldn't let a few posts on a forum get to me.

    I think that a lot of what was said in that thread was misconstrued and taken the wrong way.

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    I didn't see the other thread, but you shouldn't have to defend yourself

    Every family is different and we all do what we need to for the best interest of our kids and family.

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    Daycare is simply the modern version of the "village" raising the child. It's even better - it's a professional, qualified, caring village that has very high standards and regulation.

    Anyone who thinks that a baby/child can only be happy and healthy if it is tied to its mother 24/7... well they clearly haven't met my child.

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