All I can say is WOW! I missed alot of that thread but god I am fuming over some of those inappropriate comments and don't know where some people get off! hmmm in a roundabout way I am a part-time mother because my children aren't home with me 24/7. If I didn't want to stay home with my kids, why did I have them? Really.... pft.
Well... I went back to work after 4mths after having ds1 due to financial reasons after my husband had an accident. This wasn't planned! Being a first time mum I felt as guilty as hell but then realised that daycare was great for my ds so when dh was able to return to work I was already in a great routine and decided to continue working fulltime. It worked for us and ds certainly wasn't affected by it!
So after ds2 I had 12mths off parental leave and long service leave. Whilst I enjoyed that 12mths at home with him I was very ready to go back to work and I did. Because I love my job and I wanted to work not because I had to but some parents do and it is part of life. I didn't have to for financial reasons so my wage will benefit the future of our children which is a bonus.
Our boys are very happy adjusted kids, daycare has not harmed them in any way. In fact they appreciate us just that bit more because they aren't with us 24/7. Seeing their little happy excited faces when we pick them up is priceless. And working has certainly made me a better mother! I don't feel bad because I am not sitting at home with them all day every day.
It's not necessarily about quantity of time!
Quality time is more beneficial