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    Quote Originally Posted by Lil Smurfy View Post
    That's exactly what I'm worried about. I don't want sex to be all about baby making. If we decided to take a break though, the only way i'd be able to switch off, would be to go back on the pill. Otherwise, I'd still be aware of what my body is doing
    That's the thing LilSmurfy, I am constantly aware of what my body is doing and I'm driving myself crazy! Like the other posters said, I think I need to fill my life with some distractions and that might help. Thanks for your reply!

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    It's such a horrible thing for any couple to have to endure that's for sure.I wouldn't wish this headache upon my worst enemy.
    It's also so difficult to continue hearing about all those couples out there that once they stopped thinking about it- got there bfp.
    As a ltttc I have attempted everything under sun to try and distract myself,however,as someone previously stated sadly its always still in the back of our minds niggling away:-(

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    Default Having a break from TTC

    Sorry I meant "heartache"but yes at times it causes headaches too:-(

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    Quote Originally Posted by allygirl View Post
    It's such a horrible thing for any couple to have to endure that's for sure.I wouldn't wish this headache upon my worst enemy.
    It's also so difficult to continue hearing about all those couples out there that once they stopped thinking about it- got there bfp.
    As a ltttc I have attempted everything under sun to try and distract myself,however,as someone previously stated sadly its always still in the back of our minds niggling away:-(
    Thanks for your reply allygirl, it does cause heartaches and headaches! I don't think anyone can really comprehend what it's like to have trouble conceiving until it happens to them. Fingers crossed we both get happy news soon

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    I'm only a small way into my TTC journey, but recently read a very useful book "The Impatient Woman's Guide to Getting Pregnant". It's been a reassuring & enlightening read.

    I've decided if I get to the 6 month mark & still no go, it will be time for a weekend (or longer) away, getting a bit drunk (!) and doing my best to "forget" (knowing that is nigh on impossible for a woman!!). I am only now starting to appreciate how much a mental/emotional strain TTC can be & have a whole new appreciation for long term ttcers.

    Another issue I thought of, is that we don't errm, dtd all that much when not TTC. So if I decided to stop trying, well...it sure as hell ain't going to happen by "accident"!! Sure I'm not the only one in this boat!

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    HOMS, thanks for the advice about yoga. I am a fellow stresshead and I have found yoga really helpful for me in the past, but it hadn't even entered my head to start it again! I definitely felt more 'grounded' when I was doing it regularly so that's a great idea for me.
    And please don't be nervous about TTC. It is such an exciting time and as I said before, it's only been fairly recently that it's become stressful and scary and a bit crap for us

    Falkor, thanks for the tip about the book. I'm going to try and get a copy so I can have a read. And you are definitely not alone with the whole 'it's not going to happen by accident' thing - most nights I'm waaaay too tired to even think about it!

    Good luck to both of you with your TTC journeys

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    Default Having a break from TTC

    Hi Starlet, I've been exactly where u r a few times before. Dh & I found we were dtd just for a baby & not for fun. We started doing more things together like going out for dinner. Also the best thing for me was to stop taking my temp every single morning & I even had a break from bub hub for a while as it seemed every min someone was announcing a pregnancy!

    We also planned a holiday just to get away with each other for a few days was great! Take time out for each other & don't even talk about when ur due to ovulate...we loved dtd for fun again & getting back to how we used to be before ttc...

    Sorry, I hope this makes sense...sorry if I've been rambling. Good luck with it all

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    Thanks for your reply Rocky - it makes perfect sense to me!

    After I posted my first rambling, venty message, DH and I have had a chance to have a proper chat about things and we pretty much decided to do what you and your DH did. We're going on a family holiday, I'm not going to do any OPKs or charting at all, and we're going to just try and 'enjoy the ride' IYKWIM.
    It's still in the back of my mind, but it's not all I think about.

    for you and your DH, too!

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    Hi Scarlet, yeah that's what I found worked best for us anyway & it's great having something good like a holiday to focus on & look forward too. It's so hard not to think about getting pregnant all the time but at least ur holiday will be something else to think about, buy things for & of course enjoy

    If u ever want to vent, feel free, I think it def helps to get it all out. Good luck for u guys too & I hope it happens soon

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