Sorry everyone, this post is a bit rambly and venty and all-over-the-place, but I'm hoping someone has been in a similar situation and can give me some advice.
Dh and I have been trying for baby number 2 for over 18 months. We have had one round of tests (no major issues found) and are about to start another. Our DD took just 3 months to conceive.
Recently, TTC has started to become a huge issue for me, and for our marriage.
If I'm not waiting to ovulate, I'm wondering if I'm pregnant, then I'm worried my AF is coming, then I'm super cranky because it arrives. Then it all starts again.
Sex is no longer fun and I find I'm avoiding it unless it's a 'good' time.
DH has been pretty patient, but after another fight last night about 'not having fun anymore' I suggested we have a break from trying for a bit. DH agreed.
The thing is, I'm not sure exactly how to go about it! (Sounds stupid, huh?) What I mean is, do we stop doing OPKs and charting my cycle and all that stuff and just "have fun?" Or do we stop talking about anything baby-related at all?
And I'm not actually sure I really want to have a break. I'm worried that in my crazy mind, I'll still be hoping to see a BFP at the end of it. How do you turn that off? And how do you have sex "for fun" after such a long time trying?
Has anyone found having a break helped them at all?
Agggh, sorry if this is a pointless post - just feeling very, very deflated today