I would go for my family.
Funerals are for the living..... Family is the most important thing :-) Does anyone need you there, or would appreciate the show of support?
This actually just happened to me. My grandfather just passed away and being heavily pregnant I had to get Dr's permission to fly which I got but then had to decide if I should due to health complications . I decided not to go, to me it was a obligation and not one that was worth putting mine and my babies health at risk. This may make me sound selfish and cold but that is the way I felt in that situation
None of his family are sad he's dead. That sounds awful but it's true. My father is fine, my grandma is fine.... I wouldn't know about my other aunts and uncles as I don't talk to them but I'm told they're all pleased too.
I think I'm torn between the 'should go' because that's what you do, and the practicality of it and it just feels like it would be awkward and pointless - which sounds horrible I know. I guess I dont believe he's 'there'. I believe his spirit has moved on. I have said a prayer for his spirit and meditated about him for the past several nights sending him much love, so it's not me being cold, but I'm still conflicted :/
If it was close I probably would but if it was going to be a hassle I would go
Funerals are not really about the person who died.
They are about the family supporting each other in the loss of the person.
In your case, it does not seem that the family need much support. It also seems like you won't get much out of going.
So don't. No biggie in your personal circumstance.
You are seeing your Grandmother the next week anyhow, and you can always make a phone call.
Wash yourself of guilt/regret once you make your choice.
I wouldn't go. Unless you want to dance on his grave. It sounds like he was an unpleasant man, just because he's died doesn't mean you have to pretend you liked him.
I don't mean to sound rude.
Is everyone relieved about his death because he was a horrible person or because he was suffering/had lost himself due to Alzheimer's disease or dementia?
If it was the former, I wouldn't go. If it was the latter, I'd go.
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