of a family member (Grandfather) who you were never close to at all? If you had not seen pretty much any of that side of your family for around 17 years (apart from Grandmother, who had not visited Grandfather herself for the past four years) and didn't get on with a single one of them?
If you had never really connected with them at all and seen them yearly at most?
If finding someone to watch your son (who you are certain will be very distressed if you take him) would be very difficult?
My Grandfather has passed away. He hasn't known anyone for years and would spit, hit or abuse anyone who came to visit. Even his wife, my Grandmother, regularly admitted that she hoped he would pass away soon. It was a difficult time for him so everyone is happy, more than anything.
I have told my father I may not be able to get there with the kids and he isn't bothered. Nor is my Grandmother. If I didn't go I would visit her the following week instead. I have already made up a photo book of the kids for her (she adores them) and gotten her some puzzle books and a card.
So would you go?