You have said in other threads you don't use her, now you say you do!
I am not actually sure you can read properly. You seem to nitpick a tiny part of posts, and create an argument on that.
Vic Park IMO you had a low survival instincts baby your baby never screamed, likely without sleep training he would of slept through on his own anyway. My DS1 screamed every moment we tried CIO (even once we went to sleep school) this child in no way felt safe being left alone in his cave and that's cool because not that long ago it wasn't safe for humans babies to be left alone, I had a cave baby Vic Park has a modern baby, neither of us did anything wrong or special to get these babies it's just the luck of the draw. I'm pretty sure with a little encouragement DD would happily sleep the night away but I like having her close, nothing wrong with that.
Tizzy Hall is as intelligent as 2 house bricks, last night I read about her telling people to swaddle their babies in car seats, using a houdini strap to secure them, houdini straps are designed to break on impact this would turn a baby with its arms swaddled and not secure in the straps properly into a missile- straight out the front window, might as well hold them in your lap. Of course she retracted her comments when several people pointed this out and she has removed the ability to buy a houdini strap for this purpose from her website. She is an idiot.
This poor woman (op) poured her heart out saying that she is upset it didn't work for her.
Does everything have to start a sh!t fight.... Seriously.... Support people! Does no one remember what it's like to be a new mum?!
All parents are different. All babies are different. We do what is best for our LOs. What one might do may not be liked by others but if it works, why knock it? Let's just spend time with our LOs rather than bagging others' parenting styles.
Recent scientific research results- babies who CIO have very high levels of stress hormones while 'self settling' but often do not cry. Imo because they learn that their needs are not going to be met. Can't be bothered to find a link but it is easily searchable.
You know what, there is no magic formula for getting your child to sleep, some do it from day dot others don't. These parenting books from Tizzy Hall to the Continuim Concept all have one thing in common, telling parents your instinct is wrong here is how you do it.
Throw the books away, all of them, and follow your gut. Too hot, too cold, teething, reflux, hungry, thirsty, wet, dirty, uncomfortable, scared, annoying light in the room.... And in the end it's important to accept that no matter what you do not all babies sleep dusk til dawn.
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