I haven't read all 7 pages of replies as bub will finish nursing before I can, but don't pretty much all health professionals recommend NOT to leave your baby to cry until at LEAST 6 months?
VicPark, it sounds like your baby didn't cry much at all using this and only whinged? Is that correct? In that case I would be comfortable using it because it sounds like the routine fit in with what your bub needed. I can understand where you're coming from. You sound like an intelligent person who used the book to work for you instead of going against your own beliefs.
I think for me it wouldn't have worked as DS had reflux and I couldn't not go to him when he cried. Even now I still feel a need to go comfort him or he comes to me.
I bought SOS on the recommendation of a friend when my bub was 4 months old and used the section on introducing solids as a guide to what order to introduce certain foods. I hated the idea of the regimented feeding & sleeping times though! We tried to use Tizzie's controlled comfort methods a few nights during a phase when DD wouldn't settle unless fed to sleep and I found it too heartbreaking listening to her crying. I was fighting against instinct, hormones, everything. DH wanted to persist longer with it but I would've been a basket case. In the end I went to the library, read a range of other books, and followed what felt best for us and our child. We were able to develop a solid bedtime 'routine' without the crying.
One book that really resonated with me was called 'Helping your Baby to Sleep' by Anni Gethin & Beth Macgregor. It's full of common sense, responsive ideas and it critiques other methods as well: the polar opposite of Tizzie's book
My daughter tonight is in my bed, as is the cat. The dog isn't, he is in my mum's bed at her house along with her dog and her cat. My nephew is in bed with his parents and their dog is on the end of their bed too. Family beds for all of us now since my SIL saw how harmful it was for my nephew and for the relationships between each of them.
If my bubba had reflux I would have done what you did .
SOS presumes all babies have similar emotional response to being put in their cot. Some babies do grizzle and fall asleep. Some babies scream their hearts out.
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A lot of bagging on here is unjustified: it comes from people who haven't read the whole book or are just straight out implementing SOS incorrectly.
- It's like me bagging a diet book when i only read the 1 page about not eating chocolate.
- Me "but I don't eat chocolate, and im still fat. This book sucks!"
- Hubby: "but you eat a Big Mac every day, which was listed as a big no-no on page 2 which you did not read"
(hypothetical, hubby would never comment on my weight).
Last edited by VicPark; 14-08-2012 at 06:09.
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