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    I've got issues........

    Ive just recently had our third child 12 weeks ago, I'm at the heaviest weight I've ever been on 72 kilos and have absolutely no interest in intimacy with my husband. Its absolutely nothing to do with him, it's just that I feel so disgusting, I can't stand looking at myself, let alone anyone else looking at me.

    Its really having an effect on us at the moment as we're normally quite compatible in that area. I guess I'm just having a whinge because I know I need to get out and exercise but with 3 kids I'm finding that almost impossible! My hubby does shift work so there's no time I have to consistently exercise. I don't belong to a gym as I don't want my children in their crèches under the care of strangers anyway.

    So - how do you manage exercise and your children but also exhaustion with a newborn and "intimate" time with your partner??

    I just don't feel myself coming out of this phase/feeling anytime soon......

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    I am in the same boat as you. I have 2 kids and am the heaviest I've ever been at 70 kilos. I can't stand my body, I feel disgusting. DH and I haven't been intimate in weeks. I'm short too, so the extra weight seems to be even more on me. Before kids I was around 55 - 60. My husband works really long hours almost every day of the week and my kids are tough work... I'm alone a lot and eating is comfort.
    I rarely have time to go to the gym too so I bought a REALLY dinky old treadmill off gumtree... it does what it's meant to though. Only cost me $150! Would it be possible for you to do that? Then you could walk/run while the baby naps?
    Also 12 weeks is still so young, your body is probably still balancing everything out - rest and focus on your bubs for a little while longer if you feel you need to!

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    If you haven't the time to exercise, I'd recommend looking at a diet. For me, 30kg of weight loss came down to what I was putting into my mouth.
    You don't HAVE to exercise to loose weight. It's a good way to do it but it isn't the only way.

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    I know exactly how you feel.. I had my 4th 5 months ago weighing in at 117kg.. I had no desire to be with my husband at all because of this..
    I started eating healthy by cutting out bread, pasta, rice etc.. I go for a walk every morning before DH goes to work and during the day I ride my exercise bike or sit on a fit ball whilst I watch a show.. Then before bed I do a little bit of weights..
    I'm down to 80kg and still have 15kg to go but finally I'm starting to get my mojo back.. Good luck with it

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    Bought myself a cross trainer I try to get on once a day, sometimes its only a couple of times a week but its better than nothing! What about taking the kids for a walk or a bike ride?

    I also agree 100% with Eko!


 

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