My DS sees his father a handful of times per year and only if he is going to his father's parent's house (long story - ex is untrustworthy).
Anyway, because of this DS thinks his dad is the bees knees. Of course, because he only sees him every now and again he can feed him junk and let him do whatever he wants. I don't have a problem with this per se, I'd probably feel the same if it was only very occasionally.
My problem is, DS keeps talking about his dad... it's constant. And it's very triggering for me when he goes on about how 'great' his dad is. I have been financially, emotionally, and sexually abused by this man. Every time we bump into each other now he has some snide comment to say about me - either my looks, my home life, or just how crap I am in general.
How can I explain to DS that I need him to not talk to me about his dad because it hurts me BUT that I don't want him to feel he can't love his dad or that he has to choose a side. This isn't about that, but getting him to understand that things went wrong and mum and dad aren't exactly the best of friends.
****PLEASE ONLY SINGLE PARENTS OR POSITIVE REPLIES ONLY****
I don't need to be told how crap or selfish I am - I get that enough from FOB.