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    Hi all,

    Just wanting to connect with some people who have been there done that kinda thing. My partner has decided he does want a family any more, we have a 16month old son and one who is on its way due Jan. everything is super fresh and I'm really having trouble accepting it and I don't know if I'll be strong enough to look after two babies on my own. I'm just scared I think.
    He came home tonight but we tried to talk and I got upset so he left again. Is now the time to visit centrelink?
    I'm sure I'll be annoying you all with silly questions for a long time to come TIA

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    it's a tough thing to go through but you are totally strong enough to look after two kids you're a woman, you can do anything!

    Yes, now would be the time to visit centrelink. What will you do for housing? Are you working currently?

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    Yeah I'm working 4 days a week. I'm a teacher. Well we moved to SA because of his work so I'll go back home. I'm lucky enough that I have a Mum that wouldn't even question us coming home.

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    Quote Originally Posted by byronsmummy14 View Post
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    Yeah I'm working 4 days a week. I'm a teacher. Well we moved to SA because of his work so I'll go back home. I'm lucky enough that I have a Mum that wouldn't even question us coming home.
    Will he allow you to move? How long have you lived there?

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    Yeah he will cos he'd have to help us more if we didn't. We can't stay in this house cos it's defence and I'd be ok here except for the fact I'll be on maternity leave from the 31st of jan. yep that's right, mat leave. Yay go me my life is awesome lol.
    We moved here in January.

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    Default New to this section of Bub Hub :(

    Quick question. How long does it usually take centrelink to get back to you? It's usually a couple of weeks yeah?

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    You can go in there tomorrow and ask for help....tell them it is an emergency situation.

    I hate to very sadly break the news to you, but your XP can stop you from moving. He is totally legally within his rights, as horrible as it is.

    But other than all of that welcome to the club of awesome alones. xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bubmum View Post

    I hate to very sadly break the news to you, but your XP can stop you from moving. He is totally legally within his rights, as horrible as it is.
    I'm thinking since he is leaving her cos he doesn't want a family, he won't care if they move - so I would recommend going now before he changes his mind and tries to make you stay.

    I'm sorry he's done this to you byronsmummy. It will be hard but you will be fine - being a single mum has a lot of advantages!

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    Default New to this section of Bub Hub :(

    He doesn't care if we go he knows he can make us stay but he also knows that after his latest outburst and attempted taking of the baby that he'd have no chance of a court saying we couldn't go cos I have a home & support there and plus I'm lucky enough to have one of the best family lawyers in the state giving me advice & if he doesn't settle she'll mediate for/with me. Hoping it doesn't come to that though of course.
    He's being ridiculous and his mum is trying to guilt me into letting Byron go to them all for the weekends until we go but they never make that much of an effort normally and plus if I had my way my family would stay together so it's not like I'm intentionally taking him away.
    Plus I'm pregnant and hormonal and receiving no understanding from them so it's hard but yeah.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shelle65 View Post
    It will be hard but you will be fine - being a single mum has a lot of advantages!
    I hope so!!!


 

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