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    Yes I would be annoyed as hell and would do everything in my power to change it. Even through in a few hussy fits.

    BUT I know my DH would never force me to change my mind about something so I think the other person has every right to choose who they want, as much as it would pain me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rainbow road View Post
    Totally hypothetical but:

    If you were getting married and your fiancé chose a best man/maid of honour who you knew hated you, would you be angry they were still going to have them?
    Yes, i would be rather annoyed!

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    I actually think you're wrong. oO
    Uhh.. So you're complaining because your DP has a friend who voices her concerns to your DP, someone she's known longer than you have, and therefore, she would know her pretty well?
    I frequently tell my best mate when I think he's making a dumb@rse decision, and if his DP doesn't like me for it(which she didn't, for a very long time, because it went against what she wanted) I told her to go and eff herself and stop trying to get a hold of his house, his money and everything else that means anything to him.
    Why? Because I'm his best mate. I look out for him. I've known him much longer than she has, and I knew him a lot better at this point. When I found out they were having unprotected s3x, you can bet your **** I verbally belted the crap out of him for being so irresponsible and effing stupid.
    I know that as much as she hated me at the time, she knew I was doing what was best for him, and looking out for him as I saw fit and always have.
    Honestly, if I were you, as much as you might hate her for it, I'd gtf over it and realise she was looking out for your DP, and you're trying to ban one of the only genuine friends she has just because she voiced concerns and you didn't like it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by peoniesarepretty View Post
    I disagree with your dp. Your entire wedding party is for the both of you. We discussed & agreed on our choices first.
    agreed!

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    I would be annoyed - I think if they don't like you/you don't like them they shouldn't be in the wedding party.

    That said I don't think I'll ever be getting married so it won't be an issue for me

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jennaisme View Post
    I actually think you're wrong. oO
    Uhh.. So you're complaining because your DP has a friend who voices her concerns to your DP, someone she's known longer than you have, and therefore, she would know her pretty well?
    I frequently tell my best mate when I think he's making a dumb@rse decision, and if his DP doesn't like me for it(which she didn't, for a very long time, because it went against what she wanted) I told her to go and eff herself and stop trying to get a hold of his house, his money and everything else that means anything to him.
    Why? Because I'm his best mate. I look out for him. I've known him much longer than she has, and I knew him a lot better at this point. When I found out they were having unprotected s3x, you can bet your **** I verbally belted the crap out of him for being so irresponsible and effing stupid.
    I know that as much as she hated me at the time, she knew I was doing what was best for him, and looking out for him as I saw fit and always have.
    Honestly, if I were you, as much as you might hate her for it, I'd gtf over it and realise she was looking out for your DP, and you're trying to ban one of the only genuine friends she has just because she voiced concerns and you didn't like it.
    Where do I say they've been friends for years?

    She's not known DP longer than me. They've known each other for just over a year, we've known each other for three and been together two.
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    I actually find your response really rude. There are way more effs and gtfs aimed at me than necessary which just shows to me you don't know how to express your opinion without being profane and deliberately antagonistic.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jennaisme View Post
    I actually think you're wrong. oO
    Uhh.. So you're complaining because your DP has a friend who voices her concerns to your DP, someone she's known longer than you have, and therefore, she would know her pretty well?
    I frequently tell my best mate when I think he's making a dumb@rse decision, and if his DP doesn't like me for it(which she didn't, for a very long time, because it went against what she wanted) I told her to go and eff herself and stop trying to get a hold of his house, his money and everything else that means anything to him.
    Why? Because I'm his best mate. I look out for him. I've known him much longer than she has, and I knew him a lot better at this point. When I found out they were having unprotected s3x, you can bet your **** I verbally belted the crap out of him for being so irresponsible and effing stupid.
    I know that as much as she hated me at the time, she knew I was doing what was best for him, and looking out for him as I saw fit and always have.
    Honestly, if I were you, as much as you might hate her for it, I'd gtf over it and realise she was looking out for your DP, and you're trying to ban one of the only genuine friends she has just because she voiced concerns and you didn't like it.
    By the sounds of it you wouldn't be someone she'd want in the bridal party that's for sure.

    OP - if she really objected to the marriage I'd hope she'd have the integrity to turn down the request to be in the bridal party anyway.

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    I'd be annoyed. It would be awkward to say the least to be standing up there with someone who hates you.

    The bridal party are there to support you as individuals and as a couple. It would be divisive to have someone who dislikes one half of the couple. What if she had cold feet on the day? You don't want the support person to be fuelling that...

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    I also think there's a difference between being a supportive best friend and an overbearing best friend. At some point you also have to give your friends room to make mistakes and be there for them if it all goes wrong.

    Not that I think I'm a mistake that DP has made, but in the context of the PP, yes.

    It's kind of insulting to constantly tell someone off for the choices they make? Give them a little credit to make decisions for themself?


 

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