Last edited by ~ElectricPink~; 12-08-2012 at 13:36.
Would you get some counselling together/separately?
This guy is abusive!!!
The 'I love you but' comment is the nicest thing he's said out of the rest of the insults and controlling behaviour.
You'll never do the right thing with a man like that. They change the rules and look for fault. A good father does everything he can to ensure his family are happy, healthy and safe. he should be building you up not beating you down.
Honestly hun you would benefit from some counselling.
After reading what you just wrote I think he is the one with the problem. Why can't he fill up the damn kettle? He had hands yes? I think treating you like a slave is so disrespectful and not being compassionate or understanding of your PTSD is horrible.
You don't sound like a bad mother or wife, he sounds like a demanding husband.
He sounds like a gigantic douchenozzle
Oh wow. If the kettle needed filling up so badly whats wrong with him pulling his finger out and doing it himself? What a douche.
Would he go to councelling? Either couples or alone?
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He has actually been court ordered to do a men's behavioral change course but refuses to go as it's "only for druggos and deadbeats that bash women" and he also thinks that the judges (2 separate ones) where singling him out because they always take the womans side and he has dark skin. I have done CBT and have suggested couples counselling but he always makes excuses why he can't. I actually want to leave, but don't want to drag my poor kids through a messy break up. He also tells me to "stop playing the victim" which hurts but I ignore because I don't WANT to be a victim. He is actually a really lovely guy but I think he has a lot of deep rooted issues himself. His father treated his mother the same way and he has gone through a horrible experience (his cousin who was also him BFF took his own life when they were teenagers) that I think has made him fearful and nasty towards mental illness. It is a sign of weakness in his eyes.
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