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    How do I get my 2 yo to either go to bed by himself or with my partner? He'll go with my partner if he's really tired but I can't get him to go by himself. I now have. 4 week old so this can be difficult as his bed time is baby's feed time. It all stated because I have always since he was a bub put him to bed and as he got older would read to him or tell him a story. We've been trying for a few months now since before baby was born, but he still wants to go to sleep with me doing it. I need advice please, at the
    moment I've been doing it with both of them on my lap. The other thing that makes it difficult is I do week about with his father and have no idea of his routine there as he refuses to talk to me.

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    I don't really have any ideas because I am still happy to lie and chat with mine and stroke their hair as they go off to sleep, I find it is a nice time of day. But, whenever I have a newborn, I lie down and feed them on the older child's bed.

    If I were you I would wait awhile. If he has a new little sibling, that closeness to you is probably really important for him right now.

    Maybe you could try both you and your partner putting him to bed together for a few nights?

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    My son is 3 in december and I still have to lay with him to get him to sleep.

    The stupid thing is that he apparently goes to sleep on his own, in his own room at his fathers place (3 nights a fortnight). No bottle, sippy cup etc. Just goes to bed with no crying.

    He is completely different here. It's so blooming hard. Of course I can't be certain that what his father says is true, but it's very possible that he doesn't kick up a stink there, but does here. I tried to push DS to sleep on his own here once. He threw a violent tantrum was and screaming in his room. Continuous crying for over 3 hours. I gave in at a bit before midnight and BF him to sleep. Haven't tried it again since. Now I've just resolved to getting him to sleep as simply as possible.

    When he is fresh home from his dad's place he'll even sleep in my bed. Usually only for one or two nights. We both sleep better in our own beds

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    Can you push his bedtime either back or forward half an hour to give you the time before bubs feed time to get him settled??

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    Thanks for the advice, every idea helps I think if I can't get baby settled I'll express so dad can do that and I can put son to bed. it's a starter at least. I do like bed time and the cuddles and 'I love you' that I get, I don't think I can part with that lol.


 

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