Will you let your child go on schoolies?

**Ffrenchknickers** · 13-08-2012 14:11

Originally Posted by 2girls1boyplus1

I think you may have misunderstood
the tone of my post? I didn't mean offense at all.
I was referring to the other posts that referred to "my house, my rules" and similar, where there will be no choice given to the teens. I think the child's personality will play a huge role in if they respect your opinion or rules regardless of your input. My sister, brother and I were raised in the exact same environment and she was a nightmare (and still is to a degree!) and he is the golden child whereas I am somewhere in between, simply because we all have individual personalities.

I wasn't inferring that others won't teach their children life skills, that is just how I'm planning to approach it. I know quite a lot of people that I grew up with that have no life skills or real life common sense.

Thanks for disregarding my opinion

I wasn't disregarding your opinion, I agree with what you said about raising children, etc , some of your post may have come across the wrong way, it just came across a little condesending. There have been a few 'just you wait until it comes back to bite you' or 'you have no idea' kind of posts which are a bit offensive to those who really are trying to do their best (which I'm sure is everyone on here!)

I was a horror teen

I do think that there is nothing wrong with the 'my house/my rules' thing, I mean. even teenagers need boundaries...ESPECIALLY teenagers, IMO. I also don't think that that and teaching life skills, etc are mutually exclusive. If that makes sense?

I dont disregard your opinion at all, it's good to discuss.

**Sonja** · 13-08-2012 14:20

I do think these threads tend to descend into the good cop bad cop sides, in that anyone who is prepared to admit to thinking they might at some time often at least 10 years away let their child do something that the majority doesn't agree with is treated as if they are inviting danger into their children's lives. DH and I haven't discussed let alone decided a million things about how we want to do things with our kids yet often I find if I express a more liberal idea on many of these threads my throat gets jumped down, rather than my opinion respected.

It does seem as if on this forum if you don't have the same view as the majority your view isn't considered. Just the way it seems to me.

**Ffrenchknickers** · 13-08-2012 14:27

who is prepared to admit to thinking they might at some time often at least 10 years away let their child do something that the majority doesn't agree with is treated as if they are inviting danger into their children's lives.

I don't think that at all. I completely respect everyone's right to do what they feel is best

It's only when people imply that others doing it a different way is wrong or misguided is when people get upset.

**Sonja** · 13-08-2012 14:32

Originally Posted by Ffrenchknickers

I don't think that at all. I completely respect everyone's right to do what they feel is best

It's only when people imply that others doing it a different way is wrong or misguided is when people get upset.

My point exactly.

**Ffrenchknickers** · 13-08-2012 14:35

Well, I for one haven't done that at all. I'm happy to leave it there.

**2girls1boyplus1** · 13-08-2012 14:48

Originally Posted by Ffrenchknickers

It's only when people imply that others doing it a different way is wrong or misguided is when people get upset.

I hope this isn't directed at my post??
I wasn't implying that anyone was wrong or misguided?

I'll bow out now and stick to the topics where everyone agrees with everyone, just in case I unintentionally offend someone

**Ffrenchknickers** · 13-08-2012 15:23

Originally Posted by 2girls1boyplus1

I hope this isn't directed at my post??
I wasn't implying that anyone was wrong or misguided?

Hun, I thought we just sorted that out?

**2girls1boyplus1** · 13-08-2012 15:29

Originally Posted by Ffrenchknickers

Hun, I thought we just sorted that out?

Me too but then this was directly after my post..

Don't mind me, I'm just a bit over sensitive today I think. Lack of sleep and 34 weeks pregnant not agreeing with me.

**Ffrenchknickers** · 13-08-2012 15:33

Originally Posted by 2girls1boyplus1

Me too but then this was directly after my post..

Don't mind me, I'm just a bit over sensitive today I think. Lack of sleep and 34 weeks pregnant not agreeing with me.

**mamasurfs** · 13-08-2012 21:47

Originally Posted by 2girls1boyplus1

I would love to re read this thread in a few years time when all the younger children have grown up and see how things panned out..

I don't know anyone who has a baby and expects that they will become a defiant or troublesome teenager so I'm tending to look at it from the point of view that I'll support my children by providing them with the life skills they need to handle bad situations and wait and see what type of a person they grow to become, rather than to simply say "no you can't go".

It seems like everyone is expecting that their children will be perfectly happy doing what their parents want them to when, in my experience, that is often the last thing that teens want to do..

agree 100%