let's start at the very beginning.. it's a very good place to start
That was the relationship I had with my parents as a teen, and I just hope that I manage to achieve some of that with my 3. Can always hope anyway.
Anyway surely a 17 year old can't be anywhere near as strong willed
as a 7 year old?!?!
Last edited by Pina Colada; 13-08-2012 at 10:03.
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I did let dd make her own choice in a lot of things, this was just one thing that I didn't.
She seems to have transferred from being home to living on her own with out much trouble, so I think I did ok.
Is blessed to have 6 wonderful kids.
Pina Colada (13-08-2012)
I graduated 2004 and was 17 when I finished year 12. I was not allowed to go to the gold coast even though I could have paid for it myself.
I still lived at home and was underage therefore I needed to respect my parents decisions.
We will be paying to take DD overseas instead and I hope to hell that I will raise a child that would prefer a trip overseas with friends and family then a drunken week partying.
I was not allowed to drink until I turned 18 and wasn't allowed to go to parties and I knew that if I broke that rules (and LAWS in regards to drinking) that there would be consequences
Last edited by mamasurfs; 13-08-2012 at 10:27.
I would love to re read this thread in a few years time when all the younger children have grown up and see how things panned out..
I don't know anyone who has a baby and expects that they will become a defiant or troublesome teenager so I'm tending to look at it from the point of view that I'll support my children by providing them with the life skills they need to handle bad situations and wait and see what type of a person they grow to become, rather than to simply say "no you can't go".
It seems like everyone is expecting that their children will be perfectly happy doing what their parents want them to when, in my experience, that is often the last thing that teens want to do..
Last edited by Ffrenchknickers; 13-08-2012 at 12:34.
the tone of my post? I didn't mean offense at all.
I was referring to the other posts that referred to "my house, my rules" and similar, where there will be no choice given to the teens. I think the child's personality will play a huge role in if they respect your opinion or rules regardless of your input. My sister, brother and I were raised in the exact same environment and she was a nightmare (and still is to a degree!) and he is the golden child whereas I am somewhere in between, simply because we all have individual personalities.
I wasn't inferring that others won't teach their children life skills, that is just how I'm planning to approach it. I know quite a lot of people that I grew up with that have no life skills or real life common sense.
Thanks for disregarding my opinion