DS is 6 (7 in September). Our situation is not normal, DS is an only child but we live with my Mum, Dad and my sister and her 2 kids (5yr boy, and 2yr old girl).
DS is very socially confident. He gets a lot of praise and recognition for his manners and beautiful and caring nature. Normally, he's just the perfect kid. He's great with babies, really gentle and caring. He gets along fine with my 2yr old neice, but has a really delicate relationship with my nephew. They fight often- rarely physically fighting but occassionally there can be a hit, punch, kick here and there.
I really do hate to say it, but I believe most of the hostility is on my DS part. He really finds any reason to be nasty and cruel to him. He'll dob on him, try to get him into trouble, DS wont allow my nephew to sit next to him and watch him play his DS or ipod. HATES it when my nephew copies him on anything (will change his preference in cupcakes if my nephew wants the same colour etc) and will pick at him until he gets upset.
Last night, we were at McDonalds getting Hot Chocolates (special treat), some Policeman came in and my sister jokingly said "Look *nephew*, the police are here to get you". My nephew replied with "Nah, they're here to get Aunty ****". DS piped in and kept saying "Nah, they're here to take you away *nephew*, look, here they come" and kept being quite insistant even though it started to upset my nephew.
He doesn't do this with anyone else. I'm just not sure what to do. I've tried ignoring it, making light of it, explaining that it hurts peoples feelings- including mine, I've cried (because it really does upset me that DS is the "nasty boy"). I'm now trying a new technique. I've written a letter;
You were being rude, disrespectful and unkind to those that love and care for you by............................. Displaying this kind of behaviour hurts people's feelings. Please go to your room until you are ready to come out and play and speak nicely.
I love you a lot
Really, this is my last straw, and I don't even have confidence it will work- I don't know what else I can really do.
Any suggestions? Or even similar experiences?