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    It seems your first lawyer really did let you down big time. I'm glad you've found a better lawyer this time.

    Keep us posted.

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    What a horrible situation you are in. I'm sending hugs your way.

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    Do I understand that the childcare centre witnessed him driving off with the wrong seat and speeding?
    Is reporting to DOCS an option for them? Does it even help?
    Sorry no experience with this but it must be very hard for you!

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    Im sorry your first lawyer has given you such awful advice.

    Id ask the childcare centre to report your ex about the car seat and dangerous driving.

    Id also pop into your local police station and have a chat to them. They might go and have a talk to your ex regarding the seat.

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    Why don't you leave your DDs carseat with the cc so you know she has the approprite one?

    I know its not ideal and Yes he should provide one but he isnt and its causing all this drama and stress which only makes the people involved more resentful.

    Did a family member of yours confront him outside of the childcare? I would have driven off angry too if my ex sent someone to spy on me and check my carseat, thats almost stalking...(I don't condone his reckless behaviour at all) but I think you may need to live and let live)

    Share a seat then you know your DD is safer and he can get on with spending time with her instead of fighting with you/your family.


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    Dob in a Hoon hotline????? Police could pull him over and see your child in the wrong seat and give a fine.

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    Thanks guys for your support so much. I called 000 and the police in his area where he lived.. they did drive bys and he wasnt home at 11pm on thursday night. They did say he was home at midnight though. They didnt stop or check anything either, They just drove past. Docs called me at 2am in the morning to get more information from me but they decided that it wasnt a issue to remove her at that time. I was told they would go back at 530am.. They never did. I called them again, Paperwork had been lost, I called them again Friday night ( the police ) and they said they would call me back.. they never did.

    Im stressed and its crap. I have done everything i could to protect my daughter. She is being dropped off at my God mothers tonight so i can get her and she will be checking if he has a correct car seat. If he does not I will be calling child safety again and not give her back. If he cant look out of her welfare when she is with him, how does he expect to do anything with her. I am just hoping he now has her in a bed instead of a cot and doesnt have her back on the bottle.

    But again, Ive spoken to docs and they said it just sounds like different parenting, I think if he is regressing her training its child abuse????

    In regards to giving him my car seat, He is on 80,000 a year and im on centrelink getting no child support from him and i have a IVO out on him. The order states he needs to get everything she needs in his care just like i have. If i gave him anything in the past that i bought i never got it back and when i confronted him he told me many times it wasnt his problem and he doesnt care.. So im finally standing up for myself against his abuse. If he cant look after her, he shouldnt have her..

    Please tell me im right here??? Or anything else that i can do to help her?

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    You have done everything you can do, you are right putting your daughter's safety first, your not saying he can't have her, your saying he needs to be safe with her.
    Unfortunately what goes in when she's at his, you can't do much about. My dd was such a bad sleeper and eater when she was younger I was at my wits ends, I eventually found out she was sleeping in her dads bed, and being fed crap food. My dd is now 10 she doesnr go very often now by her choice but I still pack her clothes he doesn't have anything at his house, she always comes back not showered or hair brushed and always has eaten bad foods.
    Good luck.

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    I agree with pp, you can't be sure whats going on when he has DD and you cant control it either, you can only follow the orders.
    I understand ur frustration because your dd deserves the best he can give but I really do beileve that unless he is physically abusive/not feeding her or supervising her type danger then you just have to let it go.

    For your own stress and well being its prob best to let it be, know you do a good job with your dd and leave him too it (unless your DD is in grave danger) dcp have his name now and they dont think it warrentts removing her so it must be an ok environment although not ideal by your standards.

    I personally would buy a second hand seat for him regardless if your dds safety is so important to you Id be the better parent and do it not for him but your dd.

    I have seen this approach work wonders - ignore the drama, do whats best by the child always regardless if it ****es you off that you shouldn't have too the sooner you stop letting him and his actions affect your life the better the situation gets for everyone.


    In our case BM would always do the opposite to whatever we asked just to be spiteful, she hates us so much she loves to fight with us and make life hard.
    for about 5 yrs we fought and it was ugly, in the end dh and I decided it was time we always did what was best by the child even if it wasnt fair (we just stopped playing her games) if she refused to cooperate we ignored it and after a few weeks of this things settled down, each party moved on and we are working towards being civil.

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