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    Red face Is it normal to be worried????

    To cut a long story short, I took my daughter from my ex just before easter due to him neglecting her and not feeding her. He was also passing her around from person to person so he could go out. I did what i believe was right and i dont regret doing so.

    On Tuesday he took me to court and we came to a agreement of him having her again from Thursday until Sunday every week. He did not have a proper car seat and the court ordered that he has one. I think he mother is picking her up tomorrow due to him not being able to due to him working.

    More to the point.. im worried for my little girl!! Im so scared to let her go with him, what if he neglects her again? What if he gets the wrong car seat for her and he has a accident and she gets seriously hurt because I said he can have her again????

    I think if anything should happen to her it will be all my fault..

    Is there any mums out there that have separated from a ex and the children have a 50% shared care.

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    May I ask why you agreed to the terms if it worries you?

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    Quote Originally Posted by AllYouNeedIsLove View Post
    May I ask why you agreed to the terms if it worries you?
    This!

    I really can't understand why you would agree to it either. A day maybe, even then I would fight it if you believe she was being neglected. Did you have any proof?

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    Yes, I think in that situation its normal to be worried. I'm surprised he got 50/50 care with what you've described.

    But if anything happens - it is NOT your fault. He ïs responsible for what he does or doesn't do.

    Is it possible to get the orders changed?

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    Judges orders... I had no other option. She is 3.

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    My lawyer said since we previously had this agreement going that the judge would see no issue with re instating it since i had no real evidence of this and other things happening. So when we went in front of a judge he said the agreement was how it should be. He wanted her from Wednesday morning through until Sunday night, But got her from midday today until sunday night. which is stupid because he works all week. But he is now getting his mum to watch her on Thursdays and Fridays..

    Im waiting for him to screw this up and everyone to get sick of having to be his babysitter. I dont feel comfortable with it at all and she has said she doesnt want to go either which is breaking my heart.

    She has spent 4 months with me and in that time ive completely toilet trained her, got her sleeping in a single bed and she doesnt have the bottle..

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    I'm so sorry you're going through this.

    Start a diary and take notes of everything. When he picks her up, drops her off, what condition she's in ie unfed, thirsty, sick but no dr visit organised by him. Everything. So that if the neglect contines you have evidence to get new orders made up.

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    Yep i agree with PP , keep a diary and take notes of everything


 

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