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    I had my 12 week ultra sound just over a hr ago. I saw her little heart beating, I was so happy, iv had a bay feeling about this pregnancy for some time now, not one person believed me when I said I think something is wrong, they all said I was just being a worry wart.... Turns out my babies skin on the back of the neck is way to thick, I have to get a sample taken of the placenta. I think about what I did wrong to cause this on my baby? I am feeling so guilty. I need to make a choice, I know that much, and I'm pretty sure I know what I'll chose... I think it would be for the best, I have to worry about 2 other little people as well. I have to wait till Friday to see me doctor now so he can referee me to the ante natel clinic even tho I have my appt booked and everything for the end of the month. I feel so alone, I havnt told my parents yet, I don't know what to say to them. How would I word it? How would they react? They live on the other side of aus. I am all alone. I never thought this would happen to me, or ild be in this position to make this choice... How will I move forward from this? What happens next? I'm just left here till Friday with all these confusing thoughts running thro my head... I'm jealous of my friend who is having a health bub in december... I'm jealous of my fb group I know I shouldn't be... But I am... Why me? Why this poor helpless baby? I'm jealous at the dad he dosnt understand, he said he will support my choice what ever it is and not to worry till the results of the placenta come back... But how am
    I not to worry? Would this be classed as a baby already? What do I do after if I abort her? Where does she go? How will they do it? I'm so Friken confused!!!! I just wanna scream an cry and punch something.

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    Bonkers - what was the measurement for the nuchal fold? and did they give you your risk ratios?

    And - There is nothing that you have done to this baby to cause any potential problems. If there is something wrong that they have detected on an NT scan then it's a chromosomal thing that you had ABSOLUTELY no control over. You can't blame yourself.

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    Awwww sending you massive hugs xxx

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    I don't know the measurement but I was high risk.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bonkers View Post
    I don't know the measurement but I was high risk.
    High risk is anything greater than 1:300.
    I know what it's like to be high risk and your brain instantly stops comrehending anything else that comes up.
    Don't jump to any conclusions, go to the appointment with your Dr. Ask what your risk levels were, make the decision on the CVS or amnio then. Wait on the results from that test before you decide what to do.

    Take a breath, you've got a lot going on at the moment.

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    I just called the lady, she only gave me the risk numbers. It's 1 in 38 chance of being downs

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    Have the amnio and go from there sweetie. There is still a 37/38 chance that it doesn't. Give yourself some time to process.

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