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    My little family of 3 all have different surnames. We're no less of a family than anyone else, in fact, we seem pretty darn happy compared to a lot!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elijahs Mum View Post
    I am changing my last name to DH,s (been married for 4 years but I have kept my maiden name) but I now want to have the same name as my son, I kept my name for work plus didn't really want to give up my last name! But now I just want all 3 of us to have the same last name , after reading the feminist thread - am
    I being anti feminist by doing this - did you take your husbands name when you got married , why or why not?
    As a feminist I would say that the choice is entirely up to you

    I didn't change my name when I married but that turned out to be a very good thing as it ended in divorce When DF and I eventually get married I do plan on changing my name.

    It many European cultures the norm is that the husband takes the name of the wife. My BFF is Australian but lives in Germany with her German husband. However, they decided that he wouldn't take her surname as that would mean they would both have the name of my BFF's ex-husband

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    I am getting married in just over 7 weeks *squeal* and I will be taking my new husbands name

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    Nope because dh took my name as he didn't want to be attached to his last name anymore.

    I would of changed my name to his if he didn't take mine. He had to change it via dpoll.

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    I will be taking DF's last name when we get married. The only thing that concerns me with that is that DS has my maiden name not FOB's (previous partner), so once my name changes he won't have the same last name as either of his parents Have considered hypenating my surname with DF's, but they just dont go well together!

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    Quote Originally Posted by WhiteTulips View Post


    Df and I will wed next year. I will definitely be taking his name, not so I will finally have the same surname as our DD, but because it's my values that I take his name.
    what does that even mean?

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    I think she means that in her value system, you take your new husband's name when you get married?

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    Yes I did. IMO there's nothing to do with Feminism. Just a part from becoming one family.

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    Yes I did. I was welcomed into his family so much I wanted to be part of not just the family but take the name too.

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    I'm sorry, and this has nothing to do with feminism either. But My family is very much *one* family, a *whole* family - or whatever other term you would like to put on it. It has nothing to do with names. Just because I don't have my husband
    s last name does not make us a half family.

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