It isn't that I don't see marriage or children as an achievement, I just don't understand why that has to be defined by a name. If I am married for 40 years and you are married for 40 years, your marriage isn't more valid or special because you took your husbands surname. I just find the whole concept of named being changed strange, especially when I hear people talk about carrying on the family name and the name is "Jones" or something really common.
I would like to also point out, that in the 6 years of being a parent and the kids having my husbands surname - I have never once, ever been asked why our names are different or if they are really my kids.
But each to their own - see isn't feminism great - we can all choose what we want to do now. Whoops - wrong thread