I did take DH's name but it took me nearly 6 years of marriage to do it. I struggled with the thought of losing my identity but in reality I felt I'd lost it anyway after having kids and being out of the workforce for so long and generally making that transition into being a parent. I tried to do my maiden name for somethings and married name for others but when it came time to renew my drivers licence and passport I just decided it was time to do it all.
Yes I did , much to everyone's amazement , as its a whopper , one long Russian tongue twister.
Yes I took DHs name. It wasn't something I gave a heap of thought to at the time if I'm honest. But it was and still is wonderful to share our lives along with a name. And I also like that I have the same surname as our kids.
I took Dh's surname. I was going to make my maiden name a second middle name, but it was all rather complicated and i never got around to it. I might still do it though. And I want to give my children my maiden name as a second middle name.
I'll be changing my surname when DF & I get married. I'm a bit of a traditionalist & it would mean alot to DF. I don't really like my surname & had been tossing up the idea of changing to my mum's maiden name before I met DF. And I want to have the same name as my daughter, I feel odd when I have to explain that my name is different.
I kept my maiden name. DH would have liked me to have taken his surname and MIL still bangs on a bit about it (apparently she and grandMIL are disappointed in me for not taking it.....) but when it came to the crunch, I couldn't do it. It seemed about as sensible as being asked to change my first name. I am NM not NC. Our kids have DHs surname & I'm fine with that. My surname is pretty common & my Dad's family is huge so the surname will carry on. DH & his male cousin are the only 2 in his family to have children to carry on their surname for his family. It's a rare surname and they are the only ones in Australia, hence the importance of our kids having his name. I don't feel like any less of a family for having different names. And it's so common now to not share a surname that I have always been asked (if I haven't already volunteered the info) whether my surname is the same as my DS's or DH. It's never been assumed.
Incidentally, I go by Mrs. Keeping my surname hasn't precluded me from changing my marital status as alluded to by a PP. I am considering dropping the Mrs & going with Ms though. There was an article in the paper recently about France dropping the title that denotes whether a woman is married & going with a less specific female title on legal forms. It is kind of odd that in the 21st century we specify whether a woman is married but not a man. But that's a whole other thread.
ETA: I see marriage for me as an achievement. I'm amazed someone actually wanted to marry me. I'm so incredibly flawed so finding someone who'll put up with me was a serious achievement!!
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