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    Default Did you take your husbands last name?

    I am changing my last name to DH,s (been married for 4 years but I have kept my maiden name) but I now want to have the same name as my son, I kept my name for work plus didn't really want to give up my last name! But now I just want all 3 of us to have the same last name , after reading the feminist thread - am
    I being anti feminist by doing this - did you take your husbands name when you got married , why or why not?

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    No. Because he took mine.
    I was never going to change mine and it was very symbolic for him to leave his old life behind.

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    I took my husbands last name. I always planned to, no specific reason really

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    Nope. I'd had my last name for 20 years before I married DH ... I was kind of attached to it haha!

    Also, if I did, I'd have a rhyming name (think: Julia Goolia)

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    Yes I did. For me it's a big part of two becoming one.


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    I took my husbands last name for a number of reasons. firstly I didn't have my maiden name anyway (when my dad left my mum changed us back to her maiden name) and I hated being attached to those names so was happy to take DH's last name. Also I like having the same name as my husband and my children.

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    I kept my name. Its who I am, its my identity so why should I have to change it just because im married now? My kids will have his last name, i'm fine with that.

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    Yes I took his last name. In hindsight that's probably a big part of why I married him - so that I could have the same last name as my kids.

    Now that we've separated, I hate introducing myself with that surname but I won't change it back at the moment because it's important to me to have the same name as my kids.

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    If you want to take his name then do. Feminism is about choice. I would have kept my name, purely out of laziness, but I gave DS XDP's surname because it meant more to
    him and I like it better. No point not doing what I want just to prove a point.

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    I don't think it is, it's your name so do as you like

    Personally I wouldn't change mine if I ever get married because my son was given my maiden name as his. Otherwise I would consider it if I liked the name.

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