Grr I'm so angry at XDP, why does he always make everything difficult when it comes to his time with our son!
Sorry in advance for the lengthy post and if I don't make much sense I'm tired and can't think straight!
He refuses to meet me in the middle with the custody of our son, it's his way or nothing and im a complete b!tch and every other name under the sun trying to make things difficult apparently.
He works a full time job which is shift work, so he has saturday & sunday off, then on the other week he will have thursday & friday off. His work is a 6 week rotating roster so his week days he gets off changes every 6 weeks too which screws me over with DS's childcare. He wants to see DS 2 times a week, so on his "weekend" which I'm totally fine with, but it's such a pain in the *** when he has his days off during the week.
He MUST have DS all day thursday and all day friday and I MUST pick him up on saturday morning before 8.00AM before he goes off to work. But DS has childcare on mondays, wednesdays and thursdays, so I end up paying for DS's childcare every second week when he isn't even there! All because XDP MUST have him regardless if he has childcare or not .
He refuses to pick DS up from childcare too because he doesn't have his drivers liscence and refuses to catch public transport because it "takes too long" to pick him up (we live about a 30 min drive from each other, 15 mins without traffic).
I know this doesn't sound like much of a problem written down but this has been going on for months. He never tells me when he has his days off until the last minute and expects me to drop everything thats going on in my life so he can have DS. I can never plan to do anything half the time because of it too. He refuses to get his licence to pick his own son up from my place or childcare and expects me and his parents to do all the driving around for him. He still lives with his parents and DS sleeps in his bedroom.
He tells Child support that he has him 2 nights per week even though nearly every week "something comes up" and he just drops a night of seeing DS to go out clubbing or spend time to see a mate. Get your parents who you live with to babysit if you don't want to spend time with your DS not me! I'm not your babysitter! He's so childish it drive me batty!
Whats even worse is that for some reason he doesnt have to pat a cent in child support because they have gone by his last financial year income (which was newstart-not having a job) instead of his current income, this can't be correct can it?
I've suggested 50/50 care if that's easier for him because of his shift work, he says no. I've suggested just seeing DS for dinner on the week he has off that is during the week, he says no. I've tried compromising with this twit and he just wants to make things difficult!
After putting up with his bull**** for so long I'm wanting to go to mediation about this to get some sort of agreement written down but in terms of being DS's main carer, what are my rights when it comes to allowing DS to see his dad? Whats happening right now isn't working for me with my work or my personal life, it's making me waste money on childcare, it's making me really depressed and I feel like theres no escape from his crap!
Again sorry for the huge post, I'm exhausted just re-reading it hoping it makes some sense