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    Best of luck for tomorrow. I think However you handle things is the right way. Take care of yourself. Hugs xxx

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    I'm very sorry - it's a horrible situation. Everything you wrote is just how I was feeling this time last week - hurt, angry at the injustice of it, and unable to contemplate TTC again.

    I just had a D&C today - saw my OB last week and again yesterday, and when it became clear yesterday that the pregnancy sac wasn't changing (despite bleeding for a few days), I opted for him to do the procedure in a private hospital today.

    It is a day surgery procedure - I arrived at the hospital at 11am, sat around for ages, surgery at 1:30 and discharged about 4pm. The procedure itself was about 15 - 20 mins. It was under a general anesthetic, so you need an IV, etc.

    I'm surprised how good I feel already, both physically and emotionally. Physically, when you first wake up there's a big pad wedged between your legs. It feels and looks like a heavy flow, but most of it initially is betadine. My flow at the moment is moderate and is fresh blood (rather than the clotted clumps that were coming out before). I've got no cramping or issues from the anesthetic, either - felt fine to head out to Nandos for dinner.

    Most importantly for me, I feel like my body is my own again - it finally feels normal. I'd expected to feel upset all over again, but I don't - I feel relieved and glad to be me again. I wouldn't have believed it last week, but I feel better, even optimistic, about TTC again.

    How you choose to manage your miscarriage is really a decision for you to make. Most doctors push a D&C because they like medical solutions, and for some of us that's the right path to take. But some other women find more solace from waiting to miscarry naturally or using mifepristone to help it along. While it's important to listen to genuine medical advice, it's also important to do what is right for you emotionally. If you desperately want a D&C and don't want to wait, try calling the OB and explaining the situation - they will probably understand and fit you in for an appointment.

    Above all, please know how much we are thinking of you. It doesn't feel possible now, but you will make it through, and the hurt will gradually feel less raw. Please, if you have any questions about what happens before and after the D&C, feel free to PM me.

    Lots of hugs.

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    Wow I don't know what to make of this! I've just gotten back from the Dr and my HCG level has increased! It's not much, but from Saturdays BT it was 280 and by Tuesdays BT it was 508.

    She said that this is unusual, but that the only possibility is that I'm much earlier than my dates indicate. I knew this as my LMP and ovulation do not correlate. If I'm supposed to be 6+ weeks now, then my HCG levels should be in the thousands. I KNOW I ovulated late because she checked where I was in my cycle and on day 27 I was somewhere WITHIN the Luteal phase. On day 33 I got a positive HPT. We only DTD 3 times this month due to illness (sick kids, us sick etc) and theres only one time that correlates to ovulation, implantation and making all these dates work! SO this was a long shot to start with, I guess that's why I was so heartbroken when I was told I was having a miscarriage because I knew how lucky I was to have conceived at all.

    So dh and I were reeling from shock... I'd read your responses late last night and started to make peace with the MC... I didn't realise how much this thread has helped, especially your quick replies. I've never felt so lost, and then so supported so quickly, thank you all.

    GENTOO thank you for sharing that with me, it was hard reading it because I felt the pain, but I also felt the hope. I was thinking of you today

    So I didn't know what to make of this news, my DR called an Obstetrician (currently I'm still seeing my GP). He shared her opinion that I must be in the very very early stages of pregnancy, and my HCG levels are low, but that the fact it is increasing, albeit slowly, is a positive one. I asked her how I should think of this because I began to accept it was over (I had to put all baby related things out of site, out of mind). She said to see this as moving forward, the pregnancy! Although I'm not out of the woods by a long shot, I still feel awful writing this here while some of you suffer with loss, so please let me know if it would bet better if I posted about this elsewhere? I'd like to continue my journey here (bubhub).

    My Dr actually goes overseas for week and a half today, so what I have to do is have another BT today. Firstly to check the levels again, as she said they can't see anything on an u/s until they reach 1500. She said that must have been why they couldn't see anything last week. So I have a referral for that for next week. The other issue is checking my progesterone levels, because the PCOS makes me produce more testosterone, it could mean I have less than ideal progesterone. If this is the case I need to take pessaries to increse this as this is what supports the baby until the placenta is fully formed.

    So I'm still reeling from the shock! I'm too grateful for the good news to be angry that she was so final on Tuesday about this pregnancy not being viable. If she'd told me there was a chance then I wouldn't have started visualising it being gone to cope, which now leaves me feeling strange... "I'm not pregnant, actually I am" you know?

    Anyway thank you again, you are such lovely ladies. I hope I can continue to share my journey with you but I understand if this is not the place. Many hugs to you all.

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    So happy to hear your good news. I'm really glad that you seem to have beaten the odds. Don't feel guilty - your good outcome is in no way responsible for any of our not so good outcomes. While it does hurt a little to see happy pregnant women and not be in that position at the moment, it's nonetheless good to hear about people who've been able to beat the odds against them - gives you some hope. I hope all goes well and your levels continue to rise.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dandelions View Post
    Wow I don't know what to make of this! I've just gotten back from the Dr and my HCG level has increased! It's not much, but from Saturdays BT it was 280 and by Tuesdays BT it was 508.

    She said that this is unusual, but that the only possibility is that I'm much earlier than my dates indicate. I knew this as my LMP and ovulation do not correlate. If I'm supposed to be 6+ weeks now, then my HCG levels should be in the thousands. I KNOW I ovulated late because she checked where I was in my cycle and on day 27 I was somewhere WITHIN the Luteal phase. On day 33 I got a positive HPT. We only DTD 3 times this month due to illness (sick kids, us sick etc) and theres only one time that correlates to ovulation, implantation and making all these dates work! SO this was a long shot to start with, I guess that's why I was so heartbroken when I was told I was having a miscarriage because I knew how lucky I was to have conceived at all.

    So dh and I were reeling from shock... I'd read your responses late last night and started to make peace with the MC... I didn't realise how much this thread has helped, especially your quick replies. I've never felt so lost, and then so supported so quickly, thank you all.

    GENTOO thank you for sharing that with me, it was hard reading it because I felt the pain, but I also felt the hope. I was thinking of you today

    So I didn't know what to make of this news, my DR called an Obstetrician (currently I'm still seeing my GP). He shared her opinion that I must be in the very very early stages of pregnancy, and my HCG levels are low, but that the fact it is increasing, albeit slowly, is a positive one. I asked her how I should think of this because I began to accept it was over (I had to put all baby related things out of site, out of mind). She said to see this as moving forward, the pregnancy! Although I'm not out of the woods by a long shot, I still feel awful writing this here while some of you suffer with loss, so please let me know if it would bet better if I posted about this elsewhere? I'd like to continue my journey here (bubhub).

    My Dr actually goes overseas for week and a half today, so what I have to do is have another BT today. Firstly to check the levels again, as she said they can't see anything on an u/s until they reach 1500. She said that must have been why they couldn't see anything last week. So I have a referral for that for next week. The other issue is checking my progesterone levels, because the PCOS makes me produce more testosterone, it could mean I have less than ideal progesterone. If this is the case I need to take pessaries to increse this as this is what supports the baby until the placenta is fully formed.

    So I'm still reeling from the shock! I'm too grateful for the good news to be angry that she was so final on Tuesday about this pregnancy not being viable. If she'd told me there was a chance then I wouldn't have started visualising it being gone to cope, which now leaves me feeling strange... "I'm not pregnant, actually I am" you know?

    Anyway thank you again, you are such lovely ladies. I hope I can continue to share my journey with you but I understand if this is not the place. Many hugs to you all.
    Got my fingers and toes crossed x

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    Progesterone is too low, I have to take pessaries. HCG is still not doubling but has gone up. I've posted here http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/f...ggle-Continues
    Sorry so blunt but I'm exhausted and struggling emotionally. Thanks again for your support.


 

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