What a silly comment! I had an epi after 24hrs of labour, I was exhausted, gas made me throw up. I had the epi got some rest and was ready to push DD out after 30hrs labour. I do not regret my decision one bit. If a woman thinks she's better then me because she didn't have an epi she can go jump in a lake
And there are some people whos response to pain stimuli is just not normal - like those who's response is laughter rather than crying! When i feel certain types of pain, it puts me in absolute hysterics Mum says i've never been any different. And my young DS seems to be the same :-/
But back to topic...
Empowered?? No. I feel blessed that i had a wonderful positive drug-free birth with my first. It was 63 hours of pure bliss. But i dont feel "empowered" by it. It was no great achievement - just a completely natural act that has been going on for millenia
I chose to have an epi with my second because i had DD in the birthing suite with us and i knew i would not be able to concentrate fully on the birth. The epi was great too! I loved both my births! And i certainly dont feel like a failure or "such a girl" for having an epi.
Every woman is different and every birth is different. I just think isn't it great that we have so many choices these days? That we HAVE epi's and other drugs and life-saving procedures? Its all good
I found it important how I birthed my babies. Whether I was treated respectfully, whether my choices were honoured and mainly that I was kept informed of what was happening and that the choice was up to me. I wanted to make the choice. Not have it shoved down my throat.
And I think every woman deserves that.
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I remember getting to the hospital and asking for an internal. Contractions were hard and fast at that point but I had no idea how dilation was going. When the MW told me I was "a good 8cm" I felt so amazing and in awe of my body and myself. (I have tears in my eyes as I recall this moment.) I remember thinking, "OMG, I'm going to do this, I'm actually going to do this all by myself!!"
Gave me goosebumps reading that Bec...I remember getting to the hospital and asking for an internal. Contractions were hard and fast at that point but I had no idea how dilation was going. When the MW told me I was "a good 8cm" I felt so amazing and in awe of my body and myself. (I have tears in my eyes as I recall this moment.) I remember thinking, "OMG, I'm going to do this, I'm actually going to do this all by myself!!"
Wow how rude. I'd just say hey there's no prize for going without an epidural. It's not like you get put in the hall of fame or something. At the end of the day as long as you get a healthy baby at the end of it who the frig cares? I'd rather birth as pain free as possible since we have those options available to us now. If people want to go natural good for them.
I had an epi after days of labour and I was climbing the walls vomitting and I didn't know my own name....I LOVED the epidural!
When preg recently with #2 I was asked "so this time will you do it yourself without drugs"....so I replied "when you broke your collarbone did you refuse drugs at the hospital?"
That shut her up ha!
For the record I loved my 2nd epi too
I don't think any less of someone for having an epidural.
I had a drug free homebirth and felt incredibly proud of myself for achieving that, BUT I had a horrific pushing stage which lasted 2 hours 47 minutes (she and both her hands by her face) and can vividly remember fantasising about a spinal.
i think every labor is so individual and how people cope and experience pain is so individual that you can't really be smug and superior with your pain management.
i had a reasonably quick first stage and while very painful I could cope and was delighted when I reached inside at full dilation and felt her head just inside. ( was thinking if I'm 5 cms it's time to transfer!!!)
Next time I may need induced and I think if I was on the syntocinon drip I wouldn't be able to do it drug free.
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