It's interesting. I've had an induction with an epidural, a drug free induction and a c-section and I've copped the most judgement over the drug free birth. From both care providers, strangers, family and some friends - "You trying to be superwoman!", "You don't win a medal/get an award you know", "If you broke your arm you'd have drugs", "No brain, feel no pain, I suppose", "You don't have to be a martyr"...I could go on.
Women should be encouraged and supported in their choices and should be free to express their happiness, pride, disappointment or whatever, regardless of what they choose - or if they were even able to make a choice, without the snide mum upmanship that goes on.
Just wanted to say thanks to those who took time to explain what they meant by 'empowerment' regarding their births - that does help to clear it up for me.
And sorry to the OP for derailing a bit on that point!
What a self righteous hero she is. She wins the birth competition. Someone get the medal out.
Your second point was actually the EXACT point I was trying to make, that every labour is different so how can people compare. Perhaps the correct word is pain level and not pain threshold which I gather must be a medical term and I apologised if I used it wrongly. If you read my comment properly, what I said is that some people I have spoken to have used the term 'pain threshold' as an insult rather than accepting that somebody may have had a more painful birth. Hopefully you can understand that without the conversation going off track?
Last edited by soccer mum; 12-07-2013 at 13:13.
I was induced twice and had 2 drug free births, most people don't know that I didn't have an epidural unless they ask. I don't feel the urge to. Yes I did feel empowered by being able to achieve that, but I also went in open minded to the possibility of having one if I felt I needed it. I believe no matter how we birth our children we shouldn't judge motherhood has its own challenges other than how our babies enter the world.
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