I've skimmed threw this loooong thread as I was really interested to see why some women often state they are not feminists, but talk about derailed! Although I think what Vicpark is perhaps saying is if we want equality we need to take responsibility for our own actions, not blame men, which is truein some cases i guess,
I do however think that this is not a feminist issue as there are lots of men who blame their partners and not take responsibility for their actions, if only things were black and white, however life has lots of shades of grey.
Anyway I feel I am a feminist- and I feel that unfortunately we women often sabotage ourselves
Having a daughter i feel it is my responsibility to be strong and stand up for equality.