DO NOT QUOTE
I was 22 turning 23 when ds was born ... ds's father was 1 month shy of 21.
We got together when he was *just* over18 (2 weeks over)
We lost our first child the weekend BEFORE his 21st.
Having babies was HIS idea, he suggested it and we talked many months about expectations and behaviours.
We were together 3 years when ds was born, we had LIVED together 3 years before ds was born.
He was a loving partner, he helped with the house.
When i got out of hospital from having ds i had a weeks worth of filthy dishes and a newborn to deal with (among other things)
I spent a week hospitalised with my ds at 7 weeks old, he visited twice and spent the rest of the time playing games.
I have been called a sl*t, fat c*nt, lazy pog among other things.
I have had my things broken and a hole punched in my wall.
He spent the morning of dss first christmas calling me names then going back to bed, i spent it holding ds and waiting for his father to wake up (4 hours later)
I have had nights where he has told me he is going to kill himself and left, leaving me sick with worry for HOURS that because i dared to be annoyed about something dss father was going to be dead.
Eta - ALL of the above he denies, claims no memory of or says is my fault for ****ing him off.
We splitwhen ds was 8 months old because he was on strong, HIGHLY POISONOUS pain killers and kept leaving them on the ground as 'ds cant move yet ' we spent 12 months completely seperated.
Things are better now (very minimal agressive behaviours, no name calling) but he is still very lazy.
I suppose all of that ^ Is somehow my fault for choosing a 'young' partner?
I think not, age dont mean ****!
At 22 my father was raising 5 step kids and 3 biological kids (ONE of whom spent many months in hospital and had yearly hospital trips)
AGE is used as an EXCUSE to shirk responsabilities!
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