I'm assuming you are either at home with the kids or work and deal with the pick ups not your DH. What if, heaven forbid, something happened to you and your DH was left to care for the kids. Would you change your mind about him needing a sick day or leaving half and hour early? or would you just expect him to suck it up and have your kids sick at school or DC? the only difference I see between your DH and these women are that they are responsible for pick ups and sick days and he isn't.