In feminism there shouldn't be any expectation or judgement at all. Unfortunately some people assume that there is, and some people feel that there is pressure from their peers, which I totally understand and can see.
But I don't think that's what feminism is all about. Let's just support our political and social choices eh? Whatever floats your boat and works for you.
You go back to work and you end up feeling pressured that you should be at home with the kids, you stay at home with the kids you end up feeling pressured that you should be going back to work.
But, where are the men in these debates? Its all about women choosing work or staying at home. The women have to choose, thats where a lot of guilt comes from.
If my partner and I manage to have a second child then childcare costs will decimate one of our wages. Its great that I have a choice to work, be a SAHM or go part-time obviously but it would be even better if my partners workplace was more flexible about working part-time. Then we could share the load.
As it is, I don't think my partner is even considering asking even though I have pointed this out to him. The choice (and guilt) will lay squarely on my shoulders but not his. If he had more more choice and flexibility and then so would I. I'd like to see more men take on childcare and part-time roles. For it to be more the norm.
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