I choose to be a stay at home mum (although I'm not loving right now) but it is still my choice. And back in the 70's, my dad was a stay at home dad for me - his and my mums choice and absolutely frowned on to the point she had to lie and say she didn't have a family. It is different if it is your choice, but a lot of women just don't have that choice, it is just what is expected. For me to even say that I don't love being a stay at home mum would have been considered ludicrous not so long ago. Now days they are just my feelings and valid feelings at that.
I can see what delirium is saying - it is just so ingrained in us that we don't even questions a lot of these things. I consider myself a believer in feminist ideals - but when push comes to shove, my husband doesn't do much around the house and I can't be arsed making him do it, it is way too much effort, so I just do it myself - even though I despise housework. Somewhere in me, there is that little thing that just makes it too much effort to push for him to do equal parts in the house. When really, he shouldn't have to be pushed -everyone should be equal, everyone should just pitch in.