And does that line of thinking apply to other groups too? E.g., gays just need to join in with society and then there would be no need for gay rights?
Who are these women not joining in with society? And who are they 'chattering' to, in that case?
And if the law says that (for example) women can't vote, then do all women have to complain about it individually and 'harden up', or would that be seen as chattering?
I'm sure this isn't what you mean, but it kind of sounds like you're saying that it's only possible for people to be marginalised if they let it happen, and that they can stop it really easily and quickly, and once things are sort of okay then they don't need to complain about it any more.