+ Reply to Thread
Results 1 to 5 of 5
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Posts
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked
    0
    Reviews
    0

    Default same sex couple debating IUI vs. IVF

    Hi there,

    I'm a first time poster, so you'll have to bear with me! My partner and I (both female) are debating our next steps after TTC for 6 months - I would love a little advice from those who have experienced it!

    We decided that I would carry and after all the relevant tests, I am told I'm fairly healthy (31yrs/no known fertility issues). We have been through 3 x IUIs with anonymous donor sperm - all attempts unsuccessful. The next question is do we ditch IUI and go to IVF. We are with Dr Clarke at Fertility First and love the nurses there - everyone so far has been great.

    DP thinks IVF is the answer, but I'm still hesitant I feel pretty emotionally drained from the last 3 times we've tried - and I'm concerned that IVF will take even more of a toll plus drain us financially. DP is 4 years younger than me and probably not in as much of a rush as I am to get pg. Babies are being born all around me and it's getting harder to get excited for other people!

    Any advice would be greatly appreciated - I feel a little alone in all this....DP just wants to make a decision and get on with it.

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Mar 2010
    Location
    Sydney
    Posts
    1,597
    Thanks
    56
    Thanked
    275
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    It's such a personal decision and you should probably discuss it in your next (5 minute long?) consultation with dr Clarke if you can get one. Personally I'd go a few more iui rounds first. It's much less intrusive (if all those needles seem intrusive ivf is even more so). And cheaper.
    Then again iui worked for us so I'm biased (same clinic too)

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Aug 2012
    Posts
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked
    0
    Reviews
    0
    We ended up trying IVF as 2x IUI didn't work & Dr almost pushed for IVF due to my age (38). In some ways it was lucky as we found out our donor sperm was a dud batch! I'm waiting for test tomorrow for first go with new donor. Not overly hopeful as I have cramps. The process isn't that pleasant, but also not too much more than what you are already going through. I was very scared of the egg collection, but it wasn't anywhere near as bad as I thought. Afterwards was uncomfortable, but also very bareable. I was fairly unlucky in that my first collection only saw 1 viable transfer, nothing for the freezer! But that was the sperm. This time round we have 6 in the freezer. I feel time pressure, so whilst I didn't want to do IVF, it's not been as bad as I was expecting, though I wouldn't do it over & over - mainly as the bad luck & disappointment are wearing me down, & it's hard to stay positive enough to go through everything.

  4. #4
    Join Date
    Nov 2012
    Posts
    58
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked
    10
    Reviews
    0
    Not sure if this reply it too late but I'll give it anyway!! Several years ago I went through 3 IUI's and was finally blessed with our gorgeous twins (DD1 & DS1)! Two years ago my partner tried 1 unsuccessful round of IUI but due to age (then 38) was suggested we try ICSI next. We did 2 rounds of ICSI and was blessed with DS2. We are currently going through another round of ICSI and are in the middle of the dreaded TWW! Personally I think at your age you should give IUI another couple of goes. A friend of mine did 6 attempts and got DS and then did 1 attempt and got DD! ISCI is VERY expensive - about $5500 a go! But you do get results, especially when you are older so for us it was a no brainer. I guess it's a personal choice but do take what your Fert Specialist advises seriously, after all they do this all the time and have a bucket load of experience on what works and what doesn't. Good luck! It's all very exciting and in the end when you're holding your gorgeous bub it doesn't matter how or how much!

  5. #5
    Join Date
    May 2011
    Location
    St George District
    Posts
    753
    Thanks
    156
    Thanked
    118
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Hey, just found this page.

    So what was your decision? We are currently with the same clinic doing ICSI



 

Similar Threads

  1. Same-sex Couple TTC
    By lilbabysteps in forum IVF
    Replies: 134
    Last Post: 19-09-2013, 12:17
  2. Qld couple looking for egg donor
    By mingfinn in forum Egg Donor Needed
    Replies: 16
    Last Post: 13-04-2013, 12:27
  3. Couple of induction q's
    By RubySunrise in forum Induction
    Replies: 12
    Last Post: 02-07-2012, 20:56

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Springfree Trampoline
Give the Ultimate Christmas Gift Springfree Trampoline
The World's Safest Trampoline™ is now also the world's first Smart Trampoline™. Sensors on the mat detect your every move and your jumps control fun, educational and active games on tablet. Secure the Ultimate Christmas Gift today!
sales & new stuffsee all
Wendys Music School Melbourne
Wondering about Music Lessons? FREE 30 minute ASSESSMENT. Find out if your child is ready! Piano from age 3 years & Guitar, Singing, Drums, Violin from age 5. Lessons available for all ages. 35+ years experience. Structured program.
Use referral 'bubhub' when booking
featured supporter
Swim Australia
Swim Australia are the leading learn-to-swim experts, and national swim school authority. With over 600 Registered Swim Schools located across the country, through our aquatic education, we aim to build a Safer, Smarter, Stronger nation of swimmers.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!