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    I think it's pretty bad form for teachers to be allowing students to discipline each other. It will just be a case of "who don't I like today" and all students not understanding what's going on.

    If the teacher really wanted to encourage the kids to 'keep watch' over each other, she should be doing it in a positive way, rather than the negative. IE - "so and so gets a sticker because blah blah said he was being nice to his friends in the playground". Encourage them to "out do" each other with kindness, not bully each other.

    OP, I'd be speaking with the teacher and any aides your son may have. It's not fair to any kid to have a 'because I said so' type reaction thrown at them but especially one with autism IMO.

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    I just flat out don't like the idea of any kids name going up for everyone to see that they have been naughty. Especially at that age. And if it's not monitored by the teacher it's got to be open to bribery and blackmail? "I'll give you something if you don't put my name up", or "if you don't do this I'll put your name up".

    Your poor son, I hope he can get an answer.

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    It would make sense, perhaps, if the reading leader or whatever they're called, put the name of misbehaving children on the board and then at the end of the activity, the teacher can question both the leader (for the reasons for writing the name up) and the student accused... and THEN make her judgement.

    It seems stupid to just let kids decide who stays in and who doesn't... because yeah kids are jerks and liars and not the best at deciding what's fair and what's not... they might write a name up there because some kid pronounced a word differently to the way they would have, or because that kid accidentally bumped into them... or just because they don't like certain kids.

    I would be thoroughly unimpressed tbh.

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    just told my husband who is a teacher and he said that is blooming ridiculous

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    Not acceptable.

    Have never heard of it before.

    Would never support it in my class

    It would never be supported by the heads of the schools I'm familiar with.

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    As a parent I'm with you what a joke just another form of bullying....take it further....

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    That's wrong on so many levels.

    I had an incident happen to me back in grade 4 at school. The teacher had to leave the class for a while and one student was given the task of writing down anyone's name who talked whilst she was out of the room. I was sitting on the floor with a group of other kids when someone picked up my folder and said "who's is this?". Someone else in the group said "I don't know" and I said "it's mine". The only name that got written down was mine and I couldn't help but wonder if that was because I wasn't very popular or good friends with the student who was tasked to write the names down. When the teacher came back she asked me what I said. I was scared and pannicked and I had a stutter and I couldn't get any words out and before I could say anything she smacked me. I was in tears of frustration for the rest of the day.

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    Wrong wrong just plain wrong!

    As someone who was bullied terribly this sort of stuff really upsets me and makes me fearful for dd

    Op, I hope the school are supportive. Even if your son didn't have special needs it's still not acceptable!

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    You should talk to the school about it, as it's unnecessarily distressing for your son.

    Maybe there is some philosophical reason why they do it, but year 2 sounds a bit young. I would think if older grades did something like this, the teacher would need to supervise, so it doesn't go all Lord of the Flies.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DiamondEyes View Post
    im after some advice, from teachers especially.

    My son is in year 2. He came home today upset and confused about missing out on the entire duration of lunch, because in his class, if you are a reading group leqder (i assume u get picked to be this on a weekly basis) you are allowed to put other classmates name on the board. If your name goes on the board, you miss out on play at lunch time.

    A bit of background info. My son has autism, a part of his quirks are his obsessive need to follow rules. Now im not going to say that my son is perfect. But i know that he does what he is told, and doesnt bother anyone in the classroom. This has been witnessed by me, and his two teachers and aide last year and this year also agreeing.

    So today, my son was confused as to why his name was on the board. He approached the teacher, and said why do i miss out on playing at lunch? She said "your name was on the board" he said but i dont understand why. She would not give any further explaination. Next my spn approached his classmate who is the one who put his name on the board. Her response was "i did't feel like beng truthful today' and stuck her tongue out at him.


    Am i the only one who thinks this method of discipline is CRAZY? Kids can be flat out jerks. Obviously at this age, incredibly immature. Why are they allowed to take away another childs playtime? And why couldnt the teacher explain to my son why he was missing out? Does she not even know the reason? Why put trust in another child but not my child?

    Ds is quite upset because he says he honestly didnt do anything?
    I'd be extremely upset with that When I read the title I thought you might have meant Restorative practice which is where the children are taught with teacher guidance to sort out their issues/conflicts and the victim choses the appropriate punishment (if it's too harsh the teacher redirects) but this is nothing like that.

    IMO it is extremely inappropriate for children to decide this unless they have a teacher/adult watching them to make sure that it's fair that another child is put up on the board.


 

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