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    Sorry it took me a while to write that yeah I can see you've already gone that way in this thread

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    I know there's all kinds of accusations when there are threads about daycare to shop or clean in peace, or working mums who get a day off but still keep the spot in child care.

    I don't know....maybe I'm just past the point of giving a crap whatothers think but I love being meee Sometimes I have an RDO but keep DS' after school care spot because I do want to just sleep, laze around or not have to rush home.i want to start a thread

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    I'm like that now benji. I honestly don't care anymore what others think of my parenting, or of me full stop. I'm still a SAHM with a child entering school next year. I tend to helicopter parent. I love my kids to death but I love the 2 days a week DS goes to pre school lol

    The older I get, the less I care what others think of me

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    and I want to add, I think there's nothing wrong with loving to cook, or being a home body like others in this thread. But for ME, and me alone, I need an identity outside my family to be a better mum and wife, that's no judgment on those that don't

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    well i guess thats the good think I have already gained that insight after 4yrs on the hub - I already don't care what everyone else thinks - I have seen soooooooooooo many opinions and judgements on here. I used to htink 'oh i gotta do it this way or not that way' and now im like pfft, i do it OUR way so long as bub is safe and happy and it works for me and Dh I couldn't give a toss what anyone says or thinks. Mostly cos I figure regardless of our decision - there will be ppl for, against or indifferent so whats the point?

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    I actually think you will be ok buttoneska. You already have so many passions, cooking etc. for a while it is inevitible that you will be all baby baby baby because it's new and exciting. That happens to most of us. But you have work, cooking and other interests to get back into once you've gotten used to being a mum.

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    My advice to you is to, at this point, enjoy the whole Mother thing. It is your new identity, and why not revel in it a little bit. I went totally Mummy for ages, and then I started branching out, and now dd is my heart, but not everything that I do. She goes to CC 2 days a week, spends time with other people (not a lot, but a bit)..I study, go for a run, go out with friends or on a date. I am really enjoying finding the new, but old, me. I like this new one, more confident, more settled, more calmer, and a whole lot more happier. Just think you will still be you, but more of you, if that makes sense.

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    I am a person who completely lost myself once I became a mother. My whole life revolved around my DS1. It wasn't until my marriage was over and I was forced to be away from my boys that I found myself again. I actually found the pre married me too. Now I wish that I'd made an effort to keep my identity back then because honestly not being obsessed with my role as a mother has made me the happiest and relaxed I've been in a long time.

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    When i was pregnant, i spent lots of time worrying, researching about bub but still had "me time" reading, going to tafe. For the last 8 months since i have had DS, it's nearly 24/7 about him. It's exciting, loving, rewarding for me as a first time mum but also exhausting. I'm really looking forward to the day he's more independent and sleeps better so i can go back to study or at least have half an hour a day to read

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