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    Default Still traumatized from birth 14 months ago and still hurting :(

    I don't really want to get into too much detail about my birth, so I will stick to the basics. I was frightened from the moment I found out I was pregnant. Petrified more appropriately. I cried through the antenatal classes which was ignored by everyone there. I cried numerous times at my midwife appointments. Nothing was done. To make it worse I was made to go through a drug free labor despite me screaming for an epidural, my DP even said "well are you going to give her one?!". She either ignored us or would say "you dont need one". My first birth, as a teenager. My birth plan was completely disregarded. There were absolutely no medical reasons for what happened. I passed out between every contraction. I cried, started bleeding as soon as I got to hospital, was determined I was going to die. I had a huge scar internally that still causes me great pain. I don't know how I'm ever going to get rid of this fear. I've had so many nightmares after which I wake up crying and shaking. I really feel awful because I want to experience holding my newborn again for the first time and all that, but I can't ever do this labour thing again

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    Couldn't read and not reply.

    Have you had any counselling?

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    I am so sorry you were treated so poorly, medical abuse it just awful.

    Go and get some counselling, it won't make it better, but it will hopefully help you feel better.

    If you are still in pain physically, go and talk to your GP for a referral to a gyno, they will hopefully be able to help you feel better physically

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    Poor thing, sounds like a horrible ordeal. I gather bub was ok?

    I know someone who had a traumatic birth for dd1. They were able to book a scheduled csec for dd2 no problems and enjoyed the experience.

    Hugs xxx

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    I feel the same 2.5 years later

    Hugs I know how awful it is. Definitely speak to a counselor and also see a gyno, you shouldn't still be suffering all of that pain sweety.

    Hugs xx

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    I'm so sorry you went through such a traumatic experience I agree with the others that speaking to a counsellor might help. Big hugs

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    I haven't had any counseling , I don't know if I could talk about it in person. I find it a lot easier to put my thoughts into text. I thought about complaining to the hospital after the birth but didn't as at the time I didn't know about how I should have been treated- I just assumed they were doing the right thing. Then I thought that they all would have just laughed at my complaint. But it just completely wrecked my view of the birthing experience

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    Also thank you everyone for your support, it really means a lot to me. <3

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    aw hun, im so sorry to hear what you went through. would you consider trying for a c/section? if not, be very clear what you want this time, maybe hire a doula? they are apparently really good for helping you get things going how you want. good luck.

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