I would have definitely gone easy on him. You've got to remember that he's learning as well and that he's not with his child every hour of the day. I know you say that he's not a guinea big, but your hubby is only human. Being a parent doesn't come naturally.
His idea of parenting would probably be different to yours as well.
Not every parent handles their child the same way. Maybe it's harder for your husband to deal with certain things your child does?
What if he was just having an off day? I know I have days where I just want to pull my hair out.
Yesterday DS refused to eat his lunch, I was about to lose it so i walked into the kitchen and took a breather to calm down. Other days, I'm fine but these last few days, I've been losing my temper a lot. I'm only human at the end of the day.
Instead of bullying him for something he doesn't know, why don't you teach him?
How else is he meant to know what to do? You weren't born with perfect parenting knowledge, you had to learn somehow, and he deserves the same right to fair teaching as you do.
My DH and I are both making parenting mistakes and we have a 7, 5 and 22 month old. As long as we are learning and don't repeat our mistakes I'm OK.
Would you want your DH to forgive you if you made a mistake? Partners are supposed to be on the same team.
If your the one usually feeds the baby then you should show him how you want it done not just stand in judgement if he does the wrong thing, he was likely feeling intimadated anyway with you watching him feed bub stressing he hadnt had enough and what not.
Maybe discuss how things are meant to be done
Firstly, my son does feed himself but sometimes he needs you to put the fork or spoon up the right way etc and both my partner and I have been feeding him so I got a surprise when he was grabbing at DS's nose. DS was already irritable so he didn't get hold of him.I understand that everyone is learning but I thought there are things that you know that you don't do - like leave your kid in a car with the windows wound up.We have always agreed that our style would be Firm but fair, which is how I was raised but lately he's taken to being tyrannical saying things like 'my house my rules' and says I'm too soft
You are clearly having a difference of opinion when it comes to parenting techniques...I hope you and your partner can figure it out without too much fighting.
None of us are perfect parents, I know I'm sure not. Nor is your husband.
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