Which do you use, a tough love approach or a softly softly approach?
Personally, I grew up in an authoritarian house where I feared my parents, feelings were unimportant and we were constantly told to suck it up, get over and move on. For me, it made everything worse and left me feeling unloved, unsupported, unimportant and isolated. My mother, however, was raised the same way and seems to thrive on this approach.
What about you? Do you use one approach with everyone around you or do you adjust to suit the person?